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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 197020" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I have a very 'naughty' suggestion. Next time you are somewhere with him like ER or cop shop, set him off. You surely know him well enough to know what will trigger him off with a fairly innocent remark. In the ER, for example, he would have had to wake up for you to leave. So if you have something that you know will set him off, such as, "You do realise you are still grounded with no TV for a month," sort of thing, or something like, "Have you completed that 40 page assignment that is due first thing in the morning?" then deliver it. Whatever you do, be non-physical in your response. Do nothing physical to him in any way except to ward him off if he is physically attacking you. Absolutely nothing. I know this isn't easy. If it gets too impossible, leave the room. Shut yourself in another room (preferably one with a phone). This is so that next time the police "warn you" like they did (way over the top - I agree with you - but they were only going on what they believed, and they really have absolutely no idea, they have badly misread the situation) then you stand your ground and tell them firmly that you did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to the child. You then ask them to give you, preferably in writing (because your 'tiny brain is too exhausted and traumatised from the experiences that led you to call for help') for practical recommendations for how to PROTECT YOURSELF from your son's physical attacks. Also ask them if their failure to give you any protection in this gives you the opportunity to sue them for your medical expenses for any subsequent injuries caused by your son, now feeling even more powerful with the extra ammunition they gave him to use against you.</p><p></p><p>Another option, one which would have tempted me, would be to insist on staying at the police station until you get what you want in terms of being believed or at least some support. What's the worst they could do? Arrest you? besides, enough of this crud, in front of difficult child, should eventually set him off to shout at you, then they can see what you have to deal with.</p><p></p><p>As I said, it's a naughty suggestion. I don't know the US situation well enough, so don't take my advice unless you are independently advised that it would be OK to do so. </p><p></p><p>But we can dream, can't we?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 197020, member: 1991"] I have a very 'naughty' suggestion. Next time you are somewhere with him like ER or cop shop, set him off. You surely know him well enough to know what will trigger him off with a fairly innocent remark. In the ER, for example, he would have had to wake up for you to leave. So if you have something that you know will set him off, such as, "You do realise you are still grounded with no TV for a month," sort of thing, or something like, "Have you completed that 40 page assignment that is due first thing in the morning?" then deliver it. Whatever you do, be non-physical in your response. Do nothing physical to him in any way except to ward him off if he is physically attacking you. Absolutely nothing. I know this isn't easy. If it gets too impossible, leave the room. Shut yourself in another room (preferably one with a phone). This is so that next time the police "warn you" like they did (way over the top - I agree with you - but they were only going on what they believed, and they really have absolutely no idea, they have badly misread the situation) then you stand your ground and tell them firmly that you did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to the child. You then ask them to give you, preferably in writing (because your 'tiny brain is too exhausted and traumatised from the experiences that led you to call for help') for practical recommendations for how to PROTECT YOURSELF from your son's physical attacks. Also ask them if their failure to give you any protection in this gives you the opportunity to sue them for your medical expenses for any subsequent injuries caused by your son, now feeling even more powerful with the extra ammunition they gave him to use against you. Another option, one which would have tempted me, would be to insist on staying at the police station until you get what you want in terms of being believed or at least some support. What's the worst they could do? Arrest you? besides, enough of this crud, in front of difficult child, should eventually set him off to shout at you, then they can see what you have to deal with. As I said, it's a naughty suggestion. I don't know the US situation well enough, so don't take my advice unless you are independently advised that it would be OK to do so. But we can dream, can't we? Marg [/QUOTE]
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