Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I'm going to jail!!!!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 197115" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I sympathize with what you are going through. I do think that you should call the police regularly, and that you should consider secretly installing video equipment in your house. Nanny cams, if you will.</p><p></p><p>I know how difficult it is, because it was difficult for me, but I think you should do your best to let him throw his temper tantrums and ignore him. I think he is counting on ramping you up enough that it becomes physical and then pointing the finger at you. Our kids don't see it the way the rest of the world does. If you yell at them, in their mind that is call for violent action, either against you or their property. You are supposed to tolerate their verbal abuse because <em>they're</em> right and <em>you're</em> wrong. </p><p></p><p>Next time you are tempted to walk down the hall and yell at him, walk out the door and do some gardening or visit a neighbor instead. He will be utterly confused. If he has the cajones to follow you outside, you will have witnesses that you were just standing there and he went off on you for nothing. If he doesn't come after you, but asks what is going on, just tell him that you are so sick and tired of his selfish stupid garbage that you just plain don't give a rats patoot anymore, and you're not going to engage with him in it. You've moved on, now he should too.</p><p></p><p>I know he is pushing every button, and that he knows every button intimately. Reacting is giving him power. You have to take that power away, and you absolutely can do that by making the one weapon he has - his temper - useless.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you and your family. No one should have to live like you are. I know that the system is not supporting you and that's not right. You have to take the power back, or next time you can tell them that they can keep him. "Yes sir, you are so right, I'm not capable of controlling him. I couldn't possibly take him home under these circumstances. Perhaps you could refer me to some parenting classes and him to therapy while he's in foster care." I tell you right now. <em>No</em> foster parent is going to put up with that type of garbage. And he will definitely not have cable or a PS2. Personally, I'd sell everything in his room other than his bed and dresser. He doesn't deserve anything more than that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 197115, member: 99"] I sympathize with what you are going through. I do think that you should call the police regularly, and that you should consider secretly installing video equipment in your house. Nanny cams, if you will. I know how difficult it is, because it was difficult for me, but I think you should do your best to let him throw his temper tantrums and ignore him. I think he is counting on ramping you up enough that it becomes physical and then pointing the finger at you. Our kids don't see it the way the rest of the world does. If you yell at them, in their mind that is call for violent action, either against you or their property. You are supposed to tolerate their verbal abuse because [I]they're[/I] right and [I]you're[/I] wrong. Next time you are tempted to walk down the hall and yell at him, walk out the door and do some gardening or visit a neighbor instead. He will be utterly confused. If he has the cajones to follow you outside, you will have witnesses that you were just standing there and he went off on you for nothing. If he doesn't come after you, but asks what is going on, just tell him that you are so sick and tired of his selfish stupid garbage that you just plain don't give a rats patoot anymore, and you're not going to engage with him in it. You've moved on, now he should too. I know he is pushing every button, and that he knows every button intimately. Reacting is giving him power. You have to take that power away, and you absolutely can do that by making the one weapon he has - his temper - useless. Good luck to you and your family. No one should have to live like you are. I know that the system is not supporting you and that's not right. You have to take the power back, or next time you can tell them that they can keep him. "Yes sir, you are so right, I'm not capable of controlling him. I couldn't possibly take him home under these circumstances. Perhaps you could refer me to some parenting classes and him to therapy while he's in foster care." I tell you right now. [I]No[/I] foster parent is going to put up with that type of garbage. And he will definitely not have cable or a PS2. Personally, I'd sell everything in his room other than his bed and dresser. He doesn't deserve anything more than that. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
I'm going to jail!!!!
Top