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<blockquote data-quote="Deni" data-source="post: 197556" data-attributes="member: 1183"><p>First of all, I would like to thank each and everyone of you for suggestions, support and ideas. I am still as thankful today as I was the day I found this board for these very reasons.</p><p></p><p>I wanted to add and update what is going on.</p><p>My son really did get personal cell phone numbers of 2 dispatchers and 1 officer. I now have possession of the business cards that were given and these numbers are wrote by the dispatchers and Officer themselves. This was not made up.</p><p></p><p>I had a meeting with the Dispatcher Supervisor and the Chief of Police. The Supervisor ask, "Well how do you know the dispatchers gave their personal cell numbers?" (Evil grin as I pull the cards out of my purse.) My response, "Well, X's number is xxx-xxx-xxxx and X's is xxx-xxx-xxxx." All she could say to that was, "I'm not sure why they would do that." Well me neither, thats why I was there. I did inform her of my position and that I would press charges on anyone that came to pick up my child and transport him anywhere without my permission. Afterall, this is MY difficult child and I brought him into this world!! </p><p>by the way, he had contact with the dispatchers when he was arrested. I live in a pretty small city and when they took him in, the Officer took him in the dispatch office for the ladies to keep an eye on while he gathered paperwork or whatever he has to do. I have witnessed this being done in the past. The day that one of MY officers brings a juvenile of the like into the dispatch office where I am working is the day I put in my notice to quit and I contact media or something. This just isn't right!</p><p></p><p>My meeting with the Chief...well, still not clear on what to think. His question to me was, "Why haven't you been before a judge to have your son committed?" Uh...I can do this??? Committed where? He tells me a psychiatric hospital. Uhhhh...I am sorry Sir but my child has been in every psychiatric hospital in the area, do you know something I don't? I informed him, my difficult child knows how to work the system, they keep him 3-5 days and he is released. He told me that he was going to talk to the JP and see if there was anything that could be done at this point. Ok...sounding good till his next line. "I also understand you want to file formal complaints on my Dispatchers and Officers, go ahead but they are doing what they can to HELP you." WHAT???? Then he handed me the complaint forms. Is he serious? He really don't care. My thought is when they are filled out, he will put them in the trash but I am going to fill them out, have them notarized, make copies and take them back to the PD and get the name of the person I hand them to. This meeting took place yesterday (Tuesday).</p><p>I also spoke to the Chief about the threats made to me. He did tell me that I am walking a very fine line and that I could be arrested but didn't see how I would be convicted given the history that he was looking at with the calls to my house...just since June. He stated he wasn't sure why his Officers would tell me that. Again, me neither, that is why I was there. It's funny how they never have the answers, huh?</p><p></p><p>I do have his hospital records from when he was admitted and will keep these handy. I have started documenting MORE about who I am talking to. I have also instructed my mother she is not to pay a dime to this city IF they arrest me. I will go to court and I will have all my ducks in row and have doctors, school personnel and Pastor come to back everything I have tried to do for this difficult child and what he has and is capable of doing. I have notified my job of what I was told since me being arrested could cost me my job. I also talk to my Supervisor and told her that I would not allow him to hurt me or my house and that if I was fired due to an arrest for such, I would fight the City all the way and it would be all over. She has since then went to my Chief and he said "As long as she is out in time for work." (I don't know if this was said in joking manner or not.)</p><p></p><p>Many have suggested me walking away. I have tried this and when I do, he hits the walls harder and has actually busted walls. Walking away doesn't do much good. </p><p></p><p>Also, I have tried to intentionally set him off at the hospitals and such. difficult child does have control over this because he can and will hold it together no matter what I say to him while in front of others and most of the time for the rest of the day. However, by the following day, it is WAR in my house.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child came home on Sunday, I did have a talk with him and told him he has 2 months. If difficult child can't keep it together for the next 2 months or until I can get him placed, I told him I would sign over all my rights. And the chances of DEX taking him are slim to none which leaves him in foster care or whereever and he could then realize how good he really has it. I am seriously considering giving up. I stay depressed and sad all the time and I getting very tired of feeling like I don't want to go on living. difficult child is leaving me no other option if he continues this behavior.</p><p></p><p>Deni</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni, post: 197556, member: 1183"] First of all, I would like to thank each and everyone of you for suggestions, support and ideas. I am still as thankful today as I was the day I found this board for these very reasons. I wanted to add and update what is going on. My son really did get personal cell phone numbers of 2 dispatchers and 1 officer. I now have possession of the business cards that were given and these numbers are wrote by the dispatchers and Officer themselves. This was not made up. I had a meeting with the Dispatcher Supervisor and the Chief of Police. The Supervisor ask, "Well how do you know the dispatchers gave their personal cell numbers?" (Evil grin as I pull the cards out of my purse.) My response, "Well, X's number is xxx-xxx-xxxx and X's is xxx-xxx-xxxx." All she could say to that was, "I'm not sure why they would do that." Well me neither, thats why I was there. I did inform her of my position and that I would press charges on anyone that came to pick up my child and transport him anywhere without my permission. Afterall, this is MY difficult child and I brought him into this world!! by the way, he had contact with the dispatchers when he was arrested. I live in a pretty small city and when they took him in, the Officer took him in the dispatch office for the ladies to keep an eye on while he gathered paperwork or whatever he has to do. I have witnessed this being done in the past. The day that one of MY officers brings a juvenile of the like into the dispatch office where I am working is the day I put in my notice to quit and I contact media or something. This just isn't right! My meeting with the Chief...well, still not clear on what to think. His question to me was, "Why haven't you been before a judge to have your son committed?" Uh...I can do this??? Committed where? He tells me a psychiatric hospital. Uhhhh...I am sorry Sir but my child has been in every psychiatric hospital in the area, do you know something I don't? I informed him, my difficult child knows how to work the system, they keep him 3-5 days and he is released. He told me that he was going to talk to the JP and see if there was anything that could be done at this point. Ok...sounding good till his next line. "I also understand you want to file formal complaints on my Dispatchers and Officers, go ahead but they are doing what they can to HELP you." WHAT???? Then he handed me the complaint forms. Is he serious? He really don't care. My thought is when they are filled out, he will put them in the trash but I am going to fill them out, have them notarized, make copies and take them back to the PD and get the name of the person I hand them to. This meeting took place yesterday (Tuesday). I also spoke to the Chief about the threats made to me. He did tell me that I am walking a very fine line and that I could be arrested but didn't see how I would be convicted given the history that he was looking at with the calls to my house...just since June. He stated he wasn't sure why his Officers would tell me that. Again, me neither, that is why I was there. It's funny how they never have the answers, huh? I do have his hospital records from when he was admitted and will keep these handy. I have started documenting MORE about who I am talking to. I have also instructed my mother she is not to pay a dime to this city IF they arrest me. I will go to court and I will have all my ducks in row and have doctors, school personnel and Pastor come to back everything I have tried to do for this difficult child and what he has and is capable of doing. I have notified my job of what I was told since me being arrested could cost me my job. I also talk to my Supervisor and told her that I would not allow him to hurt me or my house and that if I was fired due to an arrest for such, I would fight the City all the way and it would be all over. She has since then went to my Chief and he said "As long as she is out in time for work." (I don't know if this was said in joking manner or not.) Many have suggested me walking away. I have tried this and when I do, he hits the walls harder and has actually busted walls. Walking away doesn't do much good. Also, I have tried to intentionally set him off at the hospitals and such. difficult child does have control over this because he can and will hold it together no matter what I say to him while in front of others and most of the time for the rest of the day. However, by the following day, it is WAR in my house. When difficult child came home on Sunday, I did have a talk with him and told him he has 2 months. If difficult child can't keep it together for the next 2 months or until I can get him placed, I told him I would sign over all my rights. And the chances of DEX taking him are slim to none which leaves him in foster care or whereever and he could then realize how good he really has it. I am seriously considering giving up. I stay depressed and sad all the time and I getting very tired of feeling like I don't want to go on living. difficult child is leaving me no other option if he continues this behavior. Deni [/QUOTE]
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