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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 229279" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Honestly, I could have handled this much better two years ago. I expected something this stupid back then. Two years ago I agree that it might have helped her grow and mature. But today, no. She was getting her life together, actually seeing that she needed an education, needed to make changes. The way things were going, I could see her getting her GED after she moved back in, taking classes at the local CC to get a degree to become a vet tech. Now, all I see is another single mother with no hopes and no chances.</p><p> </p><p>It's not fair to the baby. It's not fair to the young woman she was becoming. I won't reject her or the baby. I'll be there as much as I can before the baby is born. I'm not sure how much I'll be there for either of them after the baby is born. The idea of her getting financial aid, let alone welfare, nauseates me. That's not how she was raised and obviously not something I believe in. It is morally wrong to me so long as you are capable of working. You. Don't. Take. Charity. You. Don't. Ask. Others. To. Pay. Your. Way. You give of yourself as much as possible. You help others. You don't ask others to help you. Heck, asking my mother for help almost killed me.</p><p> </p><p>Sadly, I can see her future. She'll take her tips from her "friends." That means she will get all the financial aid she can muster. She'll take the easy way out. She will love her baby and take care of it to the best of her ability. She won't see where she is cheating her child. She'll see that there is financial aid for a low-income female with a child and take every dime she can get. Basically, she'll be like her biomom minus the alcoholism and drug abuse.</p><p> </p><p>I don't think I have it in me to love this baby. It is her choices, but her choices will be limited by being a parent. My heart is invested in my child, not some baby she will have that will destroy any chances she has for the life she deserves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 229279, member: 3626"] Honestly, I could have handled this much better two years ago. I expected something this stupid back then. Two years ago I agree that it might have helped her grow and mature. But today, no. She was getting her life together, actually seeing that she needed an education, needed to make changes. The way things were going, I could see her getting her GED after she moved back in, taking classes at the local CC to get a degree to become a vet tech. Now, all I see is another single mother with no hopes and no chances. It's not fair to the baby. It's not fair to the young woman she was becoming. I won't reject her or the baby. I'll be there as much as I can before the baby is born. I'm not sure how much I'll be there for either of them after the baby is born. The idea of her getting financial aid, let alone welfare, nauseates me. That's not how she was raised and obviously not something I believe in. It is morally wrong to me so long as you are capable of working. You. Don't. Take. Charity. You. Don't. Ask. Others. To. Pay. Your. Way. You give of yourself as much as possible. You help others. You don't ask others to help you. Heck, asking my mother for help almost killed me. Sadly, I can see her future. She'll take her tips from her "friends." That means she will get all the financial aid she can muster. She'll take the easy way out. She will love her baby and take care of it to the best of her ability. She won't see where she is cheating her child. She'll see that there is financial aid for a low-income female with a child and take every dime she can get. Basically, she'll be like her biomom minus the alcoholism and drug abuse. I don't think I have it in me to love this baby. It is her choices, but her choices will be limited by being a parent. My heart is invested in my child, not some baby she will have that will destroy any chances she has for the life she deserves. [/QUOTE]
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