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I'm hurting this evening. A lot. Does this ever stop?
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 670987" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>Update: So, it's been over a full week since any of us has seen my grandson. His mother is a sick sick individual. So she has been texting my son (and God Bless him- he is an imperfect person with many many issues to work out- but when it comes to his baby, he's so so in love) telling him all the 'new' things the baby is doing that he is missing. What a hateful individual.</p><p></p><p>I'm trying to research attorneys that do payment plans- so at least he can get some visitation. They have both, as of yesterday, talked to CPS. She evidently told a multitude of lies (they talked to her first)- my son went and he was so despondent after he wouldn't even talk to me or his sister about what was said or what happened.</p><p></p><p>I just don't understand all this- but everything I've read so far has indicated she is probably a narcissistic person. And you know how you deal with those kinds? You can't. </p><p></p><p>She will RUIN this boy. She doesn't even have her five year old- that child has lived with her father since she was 2 years old. </p><p></p><p>It's sad that fighting for your rights (on his side) is a money game. Who has this kind of money? Not me! Not him! </p><p></p><p>The saddest is she has some false sense of 'control'. So she's being as ugly and spiteful as she can. </p><p></p><p>So the knot is BACK and likely to not go away anytime soon. I hurt for my son, my daughter, and myself. I've felt helpless many times in my life. But this, this is something new. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/cry.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":cry:" title="cry :cry:" data-shortname=":cry:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/crying.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":crying:" title="crying :crying:" data-shortname=":crying:" /></p><p></p><p>Maybe I shouldn't have called CPS? I know in my heart that I truly felt like I had to. I know in my gut that it was the right thing to do. But was it worth it? I'm trying to convince myself that I made the decision I had to make at the time I made it. I'm imperfect, but God as my witness, I didn't call to be vindictive. I called because I was concerned and didn't know what else to do. I've tried and tried on my own to help them as best I could. I couldn't anymore. It's like, it's gone so far now, there is no turning back. I almost hoped they'd remove him- so they could get their own mess sorted out. I WANT them to coparent successfully. I really do. A child needs both of their parents - even if one is 'less than perfect'. And now I just concentrate on working and turning this 'off' emotionally so I can function.</p><p></p><p>Then I get off work and sit alone wondering and worrying which is only making me SICK. I don't know what to do. I'm going to reach out to some counseling and work through some of this- but you know- I can't just pretend that it's ok and it is what it is. It's not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 670987, member: 18271"] Update: So, it's been over a full week since any of us has seen my grandson. His mother is a sick sick individual. So she has been texting my son (and God Bless him- he is an imperfect person with many many issues to work out- but when it comes to his baby, he's so so in love) telling him all the 'new' things the baby is doing that he is missing. What a hateful individual. I'm trying to research attorneys that do payment plans- so at least he can get some visitation. They have both, as of yesterday, talked to CPS. She evidently told a multitude of lies (they talked to her first)- my son went and he was so despondent after he wouldn't even talk to me or his sister about what was said or what happened. I just don't understand all this- but everything I've read so far has indicated she is probably a narcissistic person. And you know how you deal with those kinds? You can't. She will RUIN this boy. She doesn't even have her five year old- that child has lived with her father since she was 2 years old. It's sad that fighting for your rights (on his side) is a money game. Who has this kind of money? Not me! Not him! The saddest is she has some false sense of 'control'. So she's being as ugly and spiteful as she can. So the knot is BACK and likely to not go away anytime soon. I hurt for my son, my daughter, and myself. I've felt helpless many times in my life. But this, this is something new. :cry::crying: Maybe I shouldn't have called CPS? I know in my heart that I truly felt like I had to. I know in my gut that it was the right thing to do. But was it worth it? I'm trying to convince myself that I made the decision I had to make at the time I made it. I'm imperfect, but God as my witness, I didn't call to be vindictive. I called because I was concerned and didn't know what else to do. I've tried and tried on my own to help them as best I could. I couldn't anymore. It's like, it's gone so far now, there is no turning back. I almost hoped they'd remove him- so they could get their own mess sorted out. I WANT them to coparent successfully. I really do. A child needs both of their parents - even if one is 'less than perfect'. And now I just concentrate on working and turning this 'off' emotionally so I can function. Then I get off work and sit alone wondering and worrying which is only making me SICK. I don't know what to do. I'm going to reach out to some counseling and work through some of this- but you know- I can't just pretend that it's ok and it is what it is. It's not. [/QUOTE]
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