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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 244482" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>No- I forgot all about them to tell you the truth. I have to say, though- I cringe at the thought of having to update anyone on all difficult child's history- legal and mental health. They go hand in hand. The only time difficult child has been arrested has been when he's manic. And he ends up in legal trouble every period of it, too. He's been arrested late winter/early spring four years in a row now. And has never been arrested any other time.</p><p></p><p>I was really debating this and then leaning more toward what Janet said- that I should try to talk with the court appointment attny and see if I thought he would put forth some effort to be prepared for court this time. Then, difficult child called and I just got off the phone with him.</p><p></p><p>He told me that a couple of days ago he was feeling depressed and discussed it with a therapist. Then, he had felt so sleepy and discussed it with a psychiatrist. Then, today, he says he thought he was getting manic and told a couple of people- one therapist and one staff person. He said he had been having trouble the past couple of days keeping his cool and not losing his temper (see how this goes together?). He said he noticed that he almost snaps when he sees or hears a boy picking on a girl, but that he's working on why he felt like it was ok for him to give me a hard time and do the things to me that he had done. He said he's trying hard to get a grip on his life and that's why he wanted to be there and it was helping. He said that he realized that the reason his acute psychiatric hospital stays had not helped him in the past is because he didn't have to deal with the real world while he was there so when he came home, he just tried to hold everything in until he couldn't take it anymore. But he says at this place, he has to deal with real world situations like going to school and so forth. And he says they help him learn HOW to deal with those situations so that he can come back and live in the real world.</p><p></p><p>Ok- so maybe he thinks he'll be ready in a week and I don't. But, I have to give him some credit here. So, I discussed Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with him and told him this is what I thought he needed for a while. I tried to describe it to him, although I have limited knowledge myself about it. Anyway, I'll see what his team of profs say about all this tomorrow and if they confirm what he says- ie, that he's telling him his different moods and working well with them and learning coping skills, etc, and they are still recommending a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a while. If all that is true, I'll go for the best attny and die trying to get it for him. </p><p></p><p>I would much prefer for difficult child to "earn" his way back home and get mental health treatment while he's doing it than to sit in state juvy for a while, then get released and that's it. And as long as difficult child is working on this and wanting it and saying it's helping, I'd never forgive myself if I didn't try to get him that chance. Plus, I can't forget the fact that the kid was telling me even before things got to the point they did that he needed more help- that the help he was getting was not enough. And let's face it- it would have taken 6 mos in out-patient therapy to get him as far as he is now in 10 days. (I mean as far as being comfortable enough for him to open up and to have therapy and psychiatrist much more available, and to have group therapy with other kids around his age with similar issues.)</p><p></p><p>Now, to get the GAL on board, then the judge, then the issue of funding....and let's just hope and pray that the profs where he is now are still recommending Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and haven't decided that he's done so well, he can go back to the real world now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 244482, member: 3699"] No- I forgot all about them to tell you the truth. I have to say, though- I cringe at the thought of having to update anyone on all difficult child's history- legal and mental health. They go hand in hand. The only time difficult child has been arrested has been when he's manic. And he ends up in legal trouble every period of it, too. He's been arrested late winter/early spring four years in a row now. And has never been arrested any other time. I was really debating this and then leaning more toward what Janet said- that I should try to talk with the court appointment attny and see if I thought he would put forth some effort to be prepared for court this time. Then, difficult child called and I just got off the phone with him. He told me that a couple of days ago he was feeling depressed and discussed it with a therapist. Then, he had felt so sleepy and discussed it with a psychiatrist. Then, today, he says he thought he was getting manic and told a couple of people- one therapist and one staff person. He said he had been having trouble the past couple of days keeping his cool and not losing his temper (see how this goes together?). He said he noticed that he almost snaps when he sees or hears a boy picking on a girl, but that he's working on why he felt like it was ok for him to give me a hard time and do the things to me that he had done. He said he's trying hard to get a grip on his life and that's why he wanted to be there and it was helping. He said that he realized that the reason his acute psychiatric hospital stays had not helped him in the past is because he didn't have to deal with the real world while he was there so when he came home, he just tried to hold everything in until he couldn't take it anymore. But he says at this place, he has to deal with real world situations like going to school and so forth. And he says they help him learn HOW to deal with those situations so that he can come back and live in the real world. Ok- so maybe he thinks he'll be ready in a week and I don't. But, I have to give him some credit here. So, I discussed Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with him and told him this is what I thought he needed for a while. I tried to describe it to him, although I have limited knowledge myself about it. Anyway, I'll see what his team of profs say about all this tomorrow and if they confirm what he says- ie, that he's telling him his different moods and working well with them and learning coping skills, etc, and they are still recommending a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for a while. If all that is true, I'll go for the best attny and die trying to get it for him. I would much prefer for difficult child to "earn" his way back home and get mental health treatment while he's doing it than to sit in state juvy for a while, then get released and that's it. And as long as difficult child is working on this and wanting it and saying it's helping, I'd never forgive myself if I didn't try to get him that chance. Plus, I can't forget the fact that the kid was telling me even before things got to the point they did that he needed more help- that the help he was getting was not enough. And let's face it- it would have taken 6 mos in out-patient therapy to get him as far as he is now in 10 days. (I mean as far as being comfortable enough for him to open up and to have therapy and psychiatrist much more available, and to have group therapy with other kids around his age with similar issues.) Now, to get the GAL on board, then the judge, then the issue of funding....and let's just hope and pray that the profs where he is now are still recommending Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and haven't decided that he's done so well, he can go back to the real world now. [/QUOTE]
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