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I'm new and my daughter's behavior has pushed me into therapy.
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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 167008" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>I've been thinking about what would be the best route for you to go. Unfortunately, at age 2 it's really hard to get a doctor to listen unless you a) there are very definite signs of developmental or medical differences being observed and/or b) you have an exceptionally good relationship with your child's pediatrician. Age 2 is especially hard because as you know people are pretty quick to jump to the terrible 2's explanation. I could see most of what you described as falling within the normal range (which is wide at age 2) but the violent outrages especially wouldn't be typical if your daughter has grown up in a stable environment with mostly consistent parenting.</p><p> </p><p>Is there a family mental health history--as in did you suffer from depression prior to her arrival or do other close family members have other mental health issues? There's a pretty strong genetic correlation so if you were to approach your doctor and have information about for instance a lot of bipolar in the family that would probably help. I would gather up any information on family history, make a journal of behaviors for a few weeks, vidoetape her violent outbursts, and then take it to my pediatrician. You would be a lot more likely to get a referral for help than if you walk in cold. Usually you'll need to schedule a seperate appointment--ask to discuss developmental/behavioral concerns.</p><p> </p><p>The other thing that I'm going to mention is that us parents who have been dealing with this for a long time have learned that while our children may have this or that disorder we often DID impact their behaviors in a negative sense because we didn't have the parenting tools we needed. Handling this type of child takes parenting skills most of us didn't grow up watching in our own parents. So we apply what we saw and what most people do and the result for a child who can't handle it is that it often makes the difficult behaviors a lot worse. Pick up a copy of the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and read the thread at the top of this board on the topic. Most of us were able to at least reduce the meltdowns by changing the way we interact with the child and by adjusting what we expect of them. It will look unfamiliar and uncomfortable at first but think of it as a different path to going where you want your child to go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 167008, member: 701"] I've been thinking about what would be the best route for you to go. Unfortunately, at age 2 it's really hard to get a doctor to listen unless you a) there are very definite signs of developmental or medical differences being observed and/or b) you have an exceptionally good relationship with your child's pediatrician. Age 2 is especially hard because as you know people are pretty quick to jump to the terrible 2's explanation. I could see most of what you described as falling within the normal range (which is wide at age 2) but the violent outrages especially wouldn't be typical if your daughter has grown up in a stable environment with mostly consistent parenting. Is there a family mental health history--as in did you suffer from depression prior to her arrival or do other close family members have other mental health issues? There's a pretty strong genetic correlation so if you were to approach your doctor and have information about for instance a lot of bipolar in the family that would probably help. I would gather up any information on family history, make a journal of behaviors for a few weeks, vidoetape her violent outbursts, and then take it to my pediatrician. You would be a lot more likely to get a referral for help than if you walk in cold. Usually you'll need to schedule a seperate appointment--ask to discuss developmental/behavioral concerns. The other thing that I'm going to mention is that us parents who have been dealing with this for a long time have learned that while our children may have this or that disorder we often DID impact their behaviors in a negative sense because we didn't have the parenting tools we needed. Handling this type of child takes parenting skills most of us didn't grow up watching in our own parents. So we apply what we saw and what most people do and the result for a child who can't handle it is that it often makes the difficult behaviors a lot worse. Pick up a copy of the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and read the thread at the top of this board on the topic. Most of us were able to at least reduce the meltdowns by changing the way we interact with the child and by adjusting what we expect of them. It will look unfamiliar and uncomfortable at first but think of it as a different path to going where you want your child to go. [/QUOTE]
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