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<blockquote data-quote="P-nut2004" data-source="post: 426421" data-attributes="member: 11740"><p>Penny, first Welcome & you have definitely come to the right place!</p><p></p><p>I can totally relate to the feeling of walking on eggshells and your mood souring as soon as your difficult child is around. I often send L (my difficult child) off with husband to have a break, which is great (as is the time she is in school) but the moment she comes in the door I'm on edge. This is something I am working on, I have had various dxs over the years and think my most recent diagnosis of BiPolar with PTSD is correct & the medications I have started are helping. I also had PPD (postpartum-depression here) after Ls birth and I know how hard that is. I am so glad L is my youngest because I deal with alot of the same behaviors you do & its got to be way harder with younger kids to care for too.</p><p></p><p>We also had problems getting the GP to refer us to a psychiatrist (psychiatrist) or therapist(therapist), for me getting stern & demanding got me my referral but you should be able to find a way around GP if he wont refer you. Once you get to a psychiatrist I would also suggest a neuropsychologist visit, we have a much better understanding of Ls behavior & how to deal with it/treat it now that we have a full picture of her dxs. You should definitely look into a psychiatrist or atleast therapist for yourself as well. If you are bi-polar(manic depressive) it is possible that your difficult child is experiencing early symptoms of this. L was diagnosed with Temper Dysregulation Disorder which is what they have replaced 'childhood/early onset bi-polar' with. I was told by her psychiatrist that she will most likely receive a diagnosis of Bi-Polar later on.</p><p></p><p>The best thing you can do is try to inform yourself as much as possible on how to deal with difficult child behaviors, they really have to be parented differently & it is hard with easy child ('normal') kids in the house too. You are headed the right direction, just don't give up! Get some help for yourself so you can be strong to deal with difficult children issues & find whatever route you can to get him some testing and help.. It's not easy but it is possible & you will find ways to make life better. The suggestion others have made of scheduling one on one time with difficult child is also a great idea, I have found that this helps L feel more important & cuts down on some of the attention seeking behaviors. We also recently posted an hour by hour schedule on the fridge and we have stuck to it, it has helped Ls anxiety alot as she knows what to expect & I actually get more done because things aren't so chaotic. Just a couple ideas, others will be by with tons more advice & suggestions!</p><p></p><p>P.S. It will also help if you make a signature to give everyone a better idea of your situation & then you dont have to repeat yourself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> There are instructions for creating one in the Site Help forum.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) :Grouphug:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="P-nut2004, post: 426421, member: 11740"] Penny, first Welcome & you have definitely come to the right place! I can totally relate to the feeling of walking on eggshells and your mood souring as soon as your difficult child is around. I often send L (my difficult child) off with husband to have a break, which is great (as is the time she is in school) but the moment she comes in the door I'm on edge. This is something I am working on, I have had various dxs over the years and think my most recent diagnosis of BiPolar with PTSD is correct & the medications I have started are helping. I also had PPD (postpartum-depression here) after Ls birth and I know how hard that is. I am so glad L is my youngest because I deal with alot of the same behaviors you do & its got to be way harder with younger kids to care for too. We also had problems getting the GP to refer us to a psychiatrist (psychiatrist) or therapist(therapist), for me getting stern & demanding got me my referral but you should be able to find a way around GP if he wont refer you. Once you get to a psychiatrist I would also suggest a neuropsychologist visit, we have a much better understanding of Ls behavior & how to deal with it/treat it now that we have a full picture of her dxs. You should definitely look into a psychiatrist or atleast therapist for yourself as well. If you are bi-polar(manic depressive) it is possible that your difficult child is experiencing early symptoms of this. L was diagnosed with Temper Dysregulation Disorder which is what they have replaced 'childhood/early onset bi-polar' with. I was told by her psychiatrist that she will most likely receive a diagnosis of Bi-Polar later on. The best thing you can do is try to inform yourself as much as possible on how to deal with difficult child behaviors, they really have to be parented differently & it is hard with easy child ('normal') kids in the house too. You are headed the right direction, just don't give up! Get some help for yourself so you can be strong to deal with difficult children issues & find whatever route you can to get him some testing and help.. It's not easy but it is possible & you will find ways to make life better. The suggestion others have made of scheduling one on one time with difficult child is also a great idea, I have found that this helps L feel more important & cuts down on some of the attention seeking behaviors. We also recently posted an hour by hour schedule on the fridge and we have stuck to it, it has helped Ls anxiety alot as she knows what to expect & I actually get more done because things aren't so chaotic. Just a couple ideas, others will be by with tons more advice & suggestions! P.S. It will also help if you make a signature to give everyone a better idea of your situation & then you dont have to repeat yourself :) There are instructions for creating one in the Site Help forum. ((HUGS)) :Grouphug: [/QUOTE]
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