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<blockquote data-quote="Lulu" data-source="post: 115192" data-attributes="member: 4493"><p>SRL, thanks for the welcome. I registered for the hyperlexia yahoo group yesterday, but haven't gotten a confirmation email yet. </p><p></p><p>As to your questions, neither child has speech delays, both came along normally or ahead. N speaks with an adult vocabulary and we have conversations about theology and physics, so I guess he is ahead of other 4yos. Now why can't I just call that "smart"? Why does it have to be a "condition"? I'm not trying to be sarcastic, I really need to know. N has trouble making "small talk," but I think has learned some techniques from listening to my husband and me. But again, isn't making small talk a learned skill? My whole world is probably skewed because I only see his preschool classmates for 5m at drop-off and pick-up, and our regular playdate is a delayed boy who just turned 4, so he rarely talks at all and when he does I can hardly understand him. I can't really have a conversation with him. Same with our 5 and 4yo neighbors. The 4yo is speech delayed and the 5yo just growls at me when I try to ask him a question. Are there any typical children anywhere?</p><p></p><p>My 2yo (A) I suppose has a broad vocabulary and is already past her first set of annoying "why?"s, for now. She is also good at conversation, but is becoming petulant in that department. Again--typical terrible twos? I lean toward that explanation.</p><p></p><p>aeditha/B: thanks for your hello. It is going to be hard for me, and you too?, to puzzle out how to discipline the younger one. What to let go, etc. I look forward to reading your experiences and thoughts. The back seat situation really stinks at both points--getting in and getting out. When we pull into the driveway after preschool, it can take N ten minutes to eventually get out of the car. Meanwhile, babygirl and I are just hanging out in the snow waiting. I have a bum hip and can rarely haul him like I used to. Life is GRAND!</p><p></p><p>I forgot to add above that both children are artistically gifted. </p><p></p><p>And I also forgot to add the family history situation. They are both our biological children. Neither of us abuses drugs or alcohol, I have a long history of major depression but am at a good place with-no medications right now. I was on Celexa (anti-dprst) throughout the pg and the first six months breastfeeding of my first child before I decided to go off of it because I was afraid I was harming him. We have depression, ADHD, alcoholism, and anxiety on both sides of the family. My husband seems to have been ODD throughout his childhood into early adulthood, but has made it through to the other side, Lord knows how. He is a wonderful husband and father. I am very patient, I think, but when N's behavior was at a bad spot last year I switched to prison warden mom and I'm afraid that made it worse for him and for us all for a bit. Husband doesn't yet see why barking and yelling don't work with N. And he is deathly afraid N will go through what he did, too.</p><p></p><p>As I reflect on it, I think I have many ODD traits in a more passive way. I often have NO idea why I don't want to do what someone tells me too (usually a family member), but I do feel the back of my neck prickle and my throat gets tight, and my brain simply SHUTS OFF. I think I know where my 4yo is coming from here, and I'm afriad maybe my 2yo too?</p><p></p><p>Thanks for listening to me ramble. Just trying to put everything down for further thought on my part.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lulu, post: 115192, member: 4493"] SRL, thanks for the welcome. I registered for the hyperlexia yahoo group yesterday, but haven't gotten a confirmation email yet. As to your questions, neither child has speech delays, both came along normally or ahead. N speaks with an adult vocabulary and we have conversations about theology and physics, so I guess he is ahead of other 4yos. Now why can't I just call that "smart"? Why does it have to be a "condition"? I'm not trying to be sarcastic, I really need to know. N has trouble making "small talk," but I think has learned some techniques from listening to my husband and me. But again, isn't making small talk a learned skill? My whole world is probably skewed because I only see his preschool classmates for 5m at drop-off and pick-up, and our regular playdate is a delayed boy who just turned 4, so he rarely talks at all and when he does I can hardly understand him. I can't really have a conversation with him. Same with our 5 and 4yo neighbors. The 4yo is speech delayed and the 5yo just growls at me when I try to ask him a question. Are there any typical children anywhere? My 2yo (A) I suppose has a broad vocabulary and is already past her first set of annoying "why?"s, for now. She is also good at conversation, but is becoming petulant in that department. Again--typical terrible twos? I lean toward that explanation. aeditha/B: thanks for your hello. It is going to be hard for me, and you too?, to puzzle out how to discipline the younger one. What to let go, etc. I look forward to reading your experiences and thoughts. The back seat situation really stinks at both points--getting in and getting out. When we pull into the driveway after preschool, it can take N ten minutes to eventually get out of the car. Meanwhile, babygirl and I are just hanging out in the snow waiting. I have a bum hip and can rarely haul him like I used to. Life is GRAND! I forgot to add above that both children are artistically gifted. And I also forgot to add the family history situation. They are both our biological children. Neither of us abuses drugs or alcohol, I have a long history of major depression but am at a good place with-no medications right now. I was on Celexa (anti-dprst) throughout the pg and the first six months breastfeeding of my first child before I decided to go off of it because I was afraid I was harming him. We have depression, ADHD, alcoholism, and anxiety on both sides of the family. My husband seems to have been ODD throughout his childhood into early adulthood, but has made it through to the other side, Lord knows how. He is a wonderful husband and father. I am very patient, I think, but when N's behavior was at a bad spot last year I switched to prison warden mom and I'm afraid that made it worse for him and for us all for a bit. Husband doesn't yet see why barking and yelling don't work with N. And he is deathly afraid N will go through what he did, too. As I reflect on it, I think I have many ODD traits in a more passive way. I often have NO idea why I don't want to do what someone tells me too (usually a family member), but I do feel the back of my neck prickle and my throat gets tight, and my brain simply SHUTS OFF. I think I know where my 4yo is coming from here, and I'm afriad maybe my 2yo too? Thanks for listening to me ramble. Just trying to put everything down for further thought on my part. [/QUOTE]
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