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I'm not really a parent... child in need of help? (ODD?+ADHD+?!?!?)
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 412652" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome. I do think ODD is not the main tag you should be looking at. At 17 it is tricky to get a neuropsychologist assessment, because a lot of them are geared towards diagnosing or assessing younger kids. But there are services and assessments around for adults, it could be worth checking into those. Your college could be a starting point. </p><p></p><p>Support - it is there, but you need to pinpoint what exactly you think you would need help with, in terms of what you need to be able to do for college. For example, the dysgraphia, at one of our colleges, could get you a scribe to take notes for you. Or you might be able to get permission to tape-record your classes. You might need to do some negotiating on that - I had to tape my uni classes (different reasons) and there were a lot of obstacles over it, until I offered to make the tapes available to any student who asked for them. Then the tapes were okayed, and things went smoothly.</p><p></p><p>Are you male or female? It does make a difference. Because especially if you're female, I think you need to look into Asperger's Syndrome. The indecision you describe seems to be especially a girl thing in Asperger's (from my personal observation).</p><p></p><p>It is very perceptive of you to identify blaming as a problem for you. It is a bad habit to get into, and one you need to get out of. Maybe write out for yourself and stick on the wall, "Sometimes bad things just happen, even to good people." You would benefit from some counselling, probably cognitive behaviour therapy, to help you modify the behaviour problems you have identified. They are not locked in stone. Whether your diagnosis is 'only' ADHD or something more, you have still already adapted a lot to modify yourself towards a more normal social functioning. But I have often said - it is like the swan on the lake. You adapt, so you appear to cope and function well, but it only SEEMS serene as it glides on the e lake. Underneath the ate there is a lot of furious activity going on, to make that semblance of serenity possible.</p><p></p><p>I have two sons with autism or Asperger's, and a daughter who we're fairly sure has Asperger's but has not got a diagnosis. All three of them have ADHD too. You remind me of my Aspie daughter. She saw her therapist just today, she needs help dealing with her indecision and her anxiety levels, especially how she gets teary so easily when she has to confront someone. Or when she has to talk to her lecturers. She is highly intelligent, socially perceptive (almost intuitive) and is amazing in so many ways. But she also can be very argumentative and is very blame-focussed. She is 24 years old.</p><p></p><p>Welcome, there is a lot of support and advice here.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 412652, member: 1991"] Welcome. I do think ODD is not the main tag you should be looking at. At 17 it is tricky to get a neuropsychologist assessment, because a lot of them are geared towards diagnosing or assessing younger kids. But there are services and assessments around for adults, it could be worth checking into those. Your college could be a starting point. Support - it is there, but you need to pinpoint what exactly you think you would need help with, in terms of what you need to be able to do for college. For example, the dysgraphia, at one of our colleges, could get you a scribe to take notes for you. Or you might be able to get permission to tape-record your classes. You might need to do some negotiating on that - I had to tape my uni classes (different reasons) and there were a lot of obstacles over it, until I offered to make the tapes available to any student who asked for them. Then the tapes were okayed, and things went smoothly. Are you male or female? It does make a difference. Because especially if you're female, I think you need to look into Asperger's Syndrome. The indecision you describe seems to be especially a girl thing in Asperger's (from my personal observation). It is very perceptive of you to identify blaming as a problem for you. It is a bad habit to get into, and one you need to get out of. Maybe write out for yourself and stick on the wall, "Sometimes bad things just happen, even to good people." You would benefit from some counselling, probably cognitive behaviour therapy, to help you modify the behaviour problems you have identified. They are not locked in stone. Whether your diagnosis is 'only' ADHD or something more, you have still already adapted a lot to modify yourself towards a more normal social functioning. But I have often said - it is like the swan on the lake. You adapt, so you appear to cope and function well, but it only SEEMS serene as it glides on the e lake. Underneath the ate there is a lot of furious activity going on, to make that semblance of serenity possible. I have two sons with autism or Asperger's, and a daughter who we're fairly sure has Asperger's but has not got a diagnosis. All three of them have ADHD too. You remind me of my Aspie daughter. She saw her therapist just today, she needs help dealing with her indecision and her anxiety levels, especially how she gets teary so easily when she has to confront someone. Or when she has to talk to her lecturers. She is highly intelligent, socially perceptive (almost intuitive) and is amazing in so many ways. But she also can be very argumentative and is very blame-focussed. She is 24 years old. Welcome, there is a lot of support and advice here. Marg [/QUOTE]
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