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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 335700" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>As someone who has lived with an addict, I totally understand what you are saying. I've never thought about not being husband's wife. Despite his issues, he is truly a great husband and father. He adores me and lets me know every single day. The years when he was struggling with his addiction were tough---and I thought more than once about leaving---not because I don't love him, but because I was fearful of what all of the stress was doing to the kids. I even consulted a divorce attorney when I sent him to rehab the first time. But, I got myself to Alanon---I read everything I could about addiction and educated myself. I am by no means perfect---I recognize that marriage is hard work. I have fallen in and out of love with husband many times over the years---but I have always loved him. He is my soulmate---and I am fortunate that he continues to choose me over the addiction. I also know that it is a fine line. Once an addict, always an addict. I know that I tend to guard my heart a little more now that I did before. I still have a small piece of me that will never trust him totally and completely. But he is human. As am I. And that means that we will both make mistakes, we will hurt each other (unintentionally), and we will forgive and move one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 335700, member: 1436"] As someone who has lived with an addict, I totally understand what you are saying. I've never thought about not being husband's wife. Despite his issues, he is truly a great husband and father. He adores me and lets me know every single day. The years when he was struggling with his addiction were tough---and I thought more than once about leaving---not because I don't love him, but because I was fearful of what all of the stress was doing to the kids. I even consulted a divorce attorney when I sent him to rehab the first time. But, I got myself to Alanon---I read everything I could about addiction and educated myself. I am by no means perfect---I recognize that marriage is hard work. I have fallen in and out of love with husband many times over the years---but I have always loved him. He is my soulmate---and I am fortunate that he continues to choose me over the addiction. I also know that it is a fine line. Once an addict, always an addict. I know that I tend to guard my heart a little more now that I did before. I still have a small piece of me that will never trust him totally and completely. But he is human. As am I. And that means that we will both make mistakes, we will hurt each other (unintentionally), and we will forgive and move one. [/QUOTE]
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