trinityroyal
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Trinity, are these the medications that helped your son? Seroquel SR. Lamictal
Those are the very ones.
It took quite a bit of tinkering with his medications dosage, as well as significant dietary and sleep pattern changes to get difficult child into a stable state. And it's a constant balancing act to keep him there, but he's so much better than he used to be. Another thing we did was to cut off all access to screens (tv, video games, computers) for about 2 years. difficult child was so addicted, and his behaviour after any exposure was so destructive and rage-filled that we realized he had to go cold-turkey.
Once we got the medications straightened out, we've slowly started reintroducing very limited screen time. difficult child still shows an appalling lack of boundaries, but the one computer to which he has access is fully locked down and it generates a daily report of all traffic, keystrokes, and a copy of all e-mail messages, so we know exactly what he's been doing. And what he's tried unsuccessfully to do.
As for their ability to behave, it seems that pleasure/pain is the only thing that's ever motivated difficult child. If he really likes something and knows he'll only have it if he behaves well, he will behave well until he gets it. Similarly, if he knows a particular misbehaviour will result in unmitigated grief, he won't do it. So we work very hard to make it such a PITA for him to behave badly that it's just not worth the trouble. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) is a huge help with this. There's no way we could sustain it if he still lived at home.