I googled and found this board and have been reading some of the threads. Seems like most of you know exactly what I am going through. I have a 20 yr old son that I love dearly, as I do his sisters. His problems have caused our entire family huge amounts of stress and me personally to be so stressed that some days I literally can't eat or sleep. He got a job after being told to for the last couple of years and quit it after working a few weeks. He said he wasn't going to work a job that didnt give him so many hours a week. He didnt care that his attitude about working wasn't great and they probably limited his hours because of that. He got mad and me and my husband (step-dad who has been in his life since he was 4) because we literally dragged him to the local community college and made him enroll. He wasnt doing any of his schoolwork so one morning he got really nasty and packed his things and moved to his bio-fathers house. I was surprised but I didnt beg him to stay, which I think is what he expected. We told him if he left he was not coming back. He said he would take care of himself and his school. Needless to say he failed every single class this last semester and didnt even attempt to enroll for the fall. He is now jobless and his bio-dad says he stays out all hours of the night and gets really angry when questioned about it. He gets really nasty and angry with me and his bio-dad and yells and screams, but always comes back and apologizes. He has seen a therapist and a doctor who say he has anger issues and is mildly depressed. Personally I feel like the only thing really wrong with him is that he is lazy and doesn't want to work or support himself. When he has money in his pocket he is fine, when he doesn't he is terrible to be around. Theres so much more to this, but I don't think I can write it all down. He bounces back and forth staying with his sisters, his bio-dad and coming to me for money for this or that. I try not to give him any but sometimes my heart beats out my head and I do give him some. He could do so much for himself, but he simply doesn't bother. I know I need to back away and let go, but its the hardest thing I've ever done.