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<blockquote data-quote="Methuselah" data-source="post: 543988" data-attributes="member: 12725"><p>Yes, Midwest, I have read your story and feel your pain. Deeply. I don't know what caused it. My other two came out of the same situation, the youngest was in the exact same situation, but are normal kids. They do idiotic things but are able to feel guilt, remorse, shame, empathy, etc. I read an interview with Robert Hare, the leading expert on psychopathy. He made a statement about bonding that went something like this: is it the lack of bonding that caused the psychopathy or the psychopathy that caused the lack of bonding? In my case, I think it is the psychopathy the caused the inability to bond. I can't explain their bizarre thought process, their beige "emotions" , their indifference. It is so abnormal. There isn't a hint of normality. They are smart, charming, pretty, mannerly to rhe outside world. Superficially, they are super easy child. Like Stepford Children. When people find out the problems we have had with them, they don't believe us, because what we are saying clashes severely with the image/person my difficult children have conned and charmed them into believing they are. We come off insane, and now, I am so worn out, frustrated, angry and exhausted, I come off like the abnormal person I say they are! It is so hard. We are doing are best to make sure the boys are as normal as possible. So far, they seem to be doing ok. We talk all the time and that seems to make the difference. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry about the boy who harmed your kids. Don't feel guilty, either. He was the one who harmed them. I don't feel badly about the girls. I can honestly say I have done all that I could/can to help. I do worry about the boys. I feel awful for being so tired and upset all the time. They understand, but it doesn't lessen the guilt. They deserve a happier mom. The happier me I know exists somewhere inside. I just have to find her again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Methuselah, post: 543988, member: 12725"] Yes, Midwest, I have read your story and feel your pain. Deeply. I don't know what caused it. My other two came out of the same situation, the youngest was in the exact same situation, but are normal kids. They do idiotic things but are able to feel guilt, remorse, shame, empathy, etc. I read an interview with Robert Hare, the leading expert on psychopathy. He made a statement about bonding that went something like this: is it the lack of bonding that caused the psychopathy or the psychopathy that caused the lack of bonding? In my case, I think it is the psychopathy the caused the inability to bond. I can't explain their bizarre thought process, their beige "emotions" , their indifference. It is so abnormal. There isn't a hint of normality. They are smart, charming, pretty, mannerly to rhe outside world. Superficially, they are super easy child. Like Stepford Children. When people find out the problems we have had with them, they don't believe us, because what we are saying clashes severely with the image/person my difficult children have conned and charmed them into believing they are. We come off insane, and now, I am so worn out, frustrated, angry and exhausted, I come off like the abnormal person I say they are! It is so hard. We are doing are best to make sure the boys are as normal as possible. So far, they seem to be doing ok. We talk all the time and that seems to make the difference. I'm sorry about the boy who harmed your kids. Don't feel guilty, either. He was the one who harmed them. I don't feel badly about the girls. I can honestly say I have done all that I could/can to help. I do worry about the boys. I feel awful for being so tired and upset all the time. They understand, but it doesn't lessen the guilt. They deserve a happier mom. The happier me I know exists somewhere inside. I just have to find her again. [/QUOTE]
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