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I actually have 2 different issues with easy child/difficult child. Any and all input would be greatly appreciated.
1) easy child/difficult child has always (since he was very young) been a physically "needy" child as in he needs lots of hugs and physical contact. Lately, he has gotten worse about it with difficult child. Because of his "need" and difficult child's huge personal space issues, we have always had a rule at our house about asking the person's permission before touching them (yes, even me just to be consistent). He was doing much better but the last 3-4 months have been awful. They will be goofing around then, when difficult child has had enough, he tries to walk away. easy child/difficult child will grab on to him and want to continue playing. difficult child will tell him to "LET GO". easy child/difficult child doesn't. When I tell him to let go, he gets defensive and says "we're just playing". When I point out to him that difficult child doesn't want to play anymore, he gets upset and has a mini-meltdown (by the bar difficult child set). I get that this might be related to the suspected Asperger's or an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) issue (nothing officially diagnosis'd yet but both are strongly suspected) but it is causing huge problems.
2) I have tried using Plan B with easy child/difficult child but I get nowhere. When I ask what's up, he says he doesn't know. I give him time to think but he still doesn't have any idea. When I make suggestions, he says no to all of them but, while most kids eventually come up with SOMETHING, easy child/difficult child has nothing. How can we make any progress when he really seems to have NO idea why he does anything he does?
I think I am getting closer to difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 every day.
1) easy child/difficult child has always (since he was very young) been a physically "needy" child as in he needs lots of hugs and physical contact. Lately, he has gotten worse about it with difficult child. Because of his "need" and difficult child's huge personal space issues, we have always had a rule at our house about asking the person's permission before touching them (yes, even me just to be consistent). He was doing much better but the last 3-4 months have been awful. They will be goofing around then, when difficult child has had enough, he tries to walk away. easy child/difficult child will grab on to him and want to continue playing. difficult child will tell him to "LET GO". easy child/difficult child doesn't. When I tell him to let go, he gets defensive and says "we're just playing". When I point out to him that difficult child doesn't want to play anymore, he gets upset and has a mini-meltdown (by the bar difficult child set). I get that this might be related to the suspected Asperger's or an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) issue (nothing officially diagnosis'd yet but both are strongly suspected) but it is causing huge problems.
2) I have tried using Plan B with easy child/difficult child but I get nowhere. When I ask what's up, he says he doesn't know. I give him time to think but he still doesn't have any idea. When I make suggestions, he says no to all of them but, while most kids eventually come up with SOMETHING, easy child/difficult child has nothing. How can we make any progress when he really seems to have NO idea why he does anything he does?
I think I am getting closer to difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 every day.