Yep, he was in pretrial today and the judge ruled that ex's complaints were frivalous and that there will be no change in the legal (joint) or 50/50 custody. In fact, if anything ex got shot down. 35 saw her later on crying hysterically in the parking lot because she really thought she'd get legal and physical custody, but that won't happen now. So how do I feel? I'm numb. Ex is crazy but so is 35. Maybe it's best that they split the time so he can get a break from both (grandson). My ex is there and 35 is ready to have a little celebration. After all he put me through during this trial, I am exhausted and just glad it's over because pre-trail will almost 100% go the same way as the trial. In fact, the judge, the GAL, the psychologist and both attorneys want to settle, not go to trial. Ex never gives up and doesn't want to skip the trial, but she can't win and her lawyer is pressuring hard to just sign the parenting plan. So what was all the grief and anger over? Yes, from the outside it seemed like these people were siding with ex, which made 35's incredible anxiety ramp up to the sky. And he called me for "support" that I didn't know how to give so I got his abuse. If I feel anything, it is relief that it's done and sadness that grandson will have to spend a lot of time parenting his dysfunctional parents. God only knows how, but my little grandson is a very strong, tough kid and far more stable than either of his parents...plus mature, stable, and EXTREMELY bright. I hope he can do this. So far, however, 35 is very good with grandson so...maybe in the future...I refuse to worry about the future. I just can't and I'm on my way to watch Jumper play possibly her last volley ball game at her beloved school. Nobody is more shocked than me that 35 won and it WAS a win because he did not want to take grandson from ex...he wanted things to stay the same. Whoda thunk it? But, as I said, ex is an unstable wreck too. Well, ready to cheer until my voice is gone for Jumper and hoping to hello that this custody crapola is no longer a part of my life. Thanks all for listening for all those horrible months.