I read in a book once (can't remember which one) where it said if your child tells you they hate you then you must be doing something right because kids usually only say that when you've placed a limit they REALLY don't like. When difficult child yells that at me, my reply is always "good, then I must be doing something right." I let that sink in a bit then tell him that I still love him and nothing is going to change that. Between the two, he usually stops yelling at me. Go figure.