Hello Secredmoon, First off, I here your pain I'm there myself. Our kids differ in some ways but are very much the same in other ways as well, Jess has never been a problem sexualy, thank god, its probably the only break with her lately. Althought she has snuck off in the middle of the night a couple of times, which when I woke and she was gone I freaked out. There was one time in particular that stands out that sounds like your story, One of Jess's friends was staying over, they asked if they could go to a friends house overnight instend of mine. I said it would be fine if this girls father o.ked it, they were on the phone talking to him, or thats what I though they were doing they hung up before I could talk to him. I believed them when they said he o.k.ed it (I'm not that stupid any more) anyway I got a hold of them a couple hours later and made them come back here after I apologized to the father for not talking to him first. But hold on now thats not the worst part (here it comes) later after there back and I've yelled a little we all go to bed, the next morning the girl is gone so I ask Jess when did she leave. Jess says, well actually once you fell asleep we left again, and went to a party, but the mon and dad were there so it was ok. I was looking at her in tears, thinking oh my god, how am I ever going to trust her again. About 10am that morning the cops called to tell me they raided the party that Jess and the girl were at, they had no proff that Jess was there because as soon as they showed up tons of kids ran everywhere. But the girl that went with Jess, she was so drunk on the floor that not only could she not stand up, but she was'nt even wherein the same clothes any more. The house where the party was at, the mom and dad were there the dad was passed out drunk on the couch and the mom was drinking and smokeing with the kids. by the way, both the mom and dad that had the party at their house went to court but I don't remember what there sentence was, but anyway Jess and I both went in the the sheriffs office to talk about what happened. So I'm right in there with you, Jackie