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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 210592" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>Susie - Wow. I read what you wrote and I'm still processing as I write this. The wheels will turn on your words i think for a bit. I like thought provoking stuff. very cool.</p><p> </p><p>No one's ever said that to me before, except my Mom. With whom i'm going to see tomorrow and i hate how she handles difficult child totally. She always pushes her. ugh! I may do the things I mentioned yet at the same time I hold difficult child liable for her actions all the time. I have heard others post here regarding not giving time out's etc. i don't believe in that. I'm big with the consequence meeting the action sort of thing. how else will she learn? That would just make her weaker i think for my child. She'll begin to think that she has a "get out of jail free card" due to her illness. So, it seems like such a fine line or a dance to an extent.</p><p> </p><p>How do we as parents define what things to change and what things not to due to their illness? I heard you even speak of provisions for holiday time and all. See my confusion? I'm really confused. Ok you totally need to pm me lol.</p><p> </p><p>I want to be the best parent i can be to her i truly do. i work at it very hard, I don't always do such a good job. Today for example I finally blew. I make her do all her hw each night regardless of battle, I do not make "special" meals for her, she eats what other kids eat or no snack, yet if she is in a manic mode it's difficult to handle her really really hard. She becomes volatile, nasty, calls me names, has raised her hand to me a few times. I need someone to teach me how to handle that and still go through daily drudgery. I don't want to up her medication each time she does this. Like for example she is still up, it's almost 11:30 medication was given at 7. Usually within 3 1/2 hours she'sdown for count. Shes totally manic today. Wow, so i feel guilty when I make anything about me to be very honest with you. I won't lie. I took fifteen min. bath tonight I had to because i'm also getting sick i had to defuse i left her with easy child in front of t.v. she than proceeded to spill nail polish remover and nail polish all over dining room table. i really have to thikn long and hard on what your saying. Ppl's views on this matter tend to differ greatly.</p><p> </p><p>Andy</p><p> </p><p>Hi! Dont' be silly i totally get what your saying and you are always helpful. There is no magic answer to any of this. I just at times have to truly take a deep breath adn say wow i truly have a children wtih a serious mental illness. I often forget. It kinda takes my breath away. Almost like i'm in a dream.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 210592, member: 4514"] Susie - Wow. I read what you wrote and I'm still processing as I write this. The wheels will turn on your words i think for a bit. I like thought provoking stuff. very cool. No one's ever said that to me before, except my Mom. With whom i'm going to see tomorrow and i hate how she handles difficult child totally. She always pushes her. ugh! I may do the things I mentioned yet at the same time I hold difficult child liable for her actions all the time. I have heard others post here regarding not giving time out's etc. i don't believe in that. I'm big with the consequence meeting the action sort of thing. how else will she learn? That would just make her weaker i think for my child. She'll begin to think that she has a "get out of jail free card" due to her illness. So, it seems like such a fine line or a dance to an extent. How do we as parents define what things to change and what things not to due to their illness? I heard you even speak of provisions for holiday time and all. See my confusion? I'm really confused. Ok you totally need to pm me lol. I want to be the best parent i can be to her i truly do. i work at it very hard, I don't always do such a good job. Today for example I finally blew. I make her do all her hw each night regardless of battle, I do not make "special" meals for her, she eats what other kids eat or no snack, yet if she is in a manic mode it's difficult to handle her really really hard. She becomes volatile, nasty, calls me names, has raised her hand to me a few times. I need someone to teach me how to handle that and still go through daily drudgery. I don't want to up her medication each time she does this. Like for example she is still up, it's almost 11:30 medication was given at 7. Usually within 3 1/2 hours she'sdown for count. Shes totally manic today. Wow, so i feel guilty when I make anything about me to be very honest with you. I won't lie. I took fifteen min. bath tonight I had to because i'm also getting sick i had to defuse i left her with easy child in front of t.v. she than proceeded to spill nail polish remover and nail polish all over dining room table. i really have to thikn long and hard on what your saying. Ppl's views on this matter tend to differ greatly. Andy Hi! Dont' be silly i totally get what your saying and you are always helpful. There is no magic answer to any of this. I just at times have to truly take a deep breath adn say wow i truly have a children wtih a serious mental illness. I often forget. It kinda takes my breath away. Almost like i'm in a dream. [/QUOTE]
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