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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 116649" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Hi, Susie! My bro wanted custody for several reasons- he's a half-bro and we weren't really raised together- our dad died when we were very young kids. My bro is (was) the only one who could carry on the family name, but, he's gay and been with a SO male for many, many years. He'll never have a kid of his own and lives in a state where they cannot adopt. He has his own issues and they somehow partly come out with wanting me out of the picture- it's always been this way. Apparently, he thought because difficult child was in trouble with the law, he had an opportunity. (His SO used to work for social services so they know enough to stir up trouble.) Anyway, he apparently also thought that because difficult child had reached 12 yo, he could choose where he wanted to live and thought difficult child would choose him. Well, difficult child was (and is) facing long-term juvy- they aren't going to send him out of state to a relative when they've confirmed that I'm a decent parent. And, the kid's choice of where to live pertains to 2 fit parents- not a 1/2 uncle, so that didn't turn out for him. And, difficult child finally told him he'd rather live in a foster home than with him.</p><p></p><p> :hawaii_girl:</p><p></p><p>I can't do anything for repercussion unless he starts the phone calls again to sd, GAL, social services, etc., then I can, and will, file charges for harrassment and deflamation of character.</p><p></p><p> :warrior:</p><p></p><p>You and the others are probably right about the school. I was hoping he could get through- he's half-way through middle school. But, it seems like they did just try to pacify the first half of the year, and things are being "prepped" now. I know that's why they are logging difficult child's behavior- but it hasn't shown what they thought it would.</p><p></p><p> :thumbsdown:</p><p></p><p>ADHD: yes, nueropsych testing and recent MDE testing was borderline (actually non-conclusive), which isn't eneough reason for stims to me. neuropsychologist also revealed some kind of language and memory impairments. With a questionable Bipolar (mood-disorder) diagnosis, I tend to see the ADHD as secondary. And, the psychiatrist and I agree that the "impairments" that showed up on the neuropsychologist may be (probably are) intermittent. For instance, he had no grade issues last year- he had a B average that started slipping toward a C when he started his typical "unstable" period in the winter. Now, there definitely could be more to it that will come out more and more as he progresses in school, but until we get moods and resulting memory issues under control as much as possible, we don't think we'll be able to tell. Yes, he had a sleep-deprived EEg- came back normal. I still wonder if an MRI or something else might reveal anything that hasn't been considered yet.</p><p></p><p> :dont_know:</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the PUFFS! Thanks for sending hugs to difficult child, too. You know, he has his moments- good and bad! He's doing homework right now! YIPEE!</p><p></p><p> :woohoo:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 116649, member: 3699"] Hi, Susie! My bro wanted custody for several reasons- he's a half-bro and we weren't really raised together- our dad died when we were very young kids. My bro is (was) the only one who could carry on the family name, but, he's gay and been with a SO male for many, many years. He'll never have a kid of his own and lives in a state where they cannot adopt. He has his own issues and they somehow partly come out with wanting me out of the picture- it's always been this way. Apparently, he thought because difficult child was in trouble with the law, he had an opportunity. (His SO used to work for social services so they know enough to stir up trouble.) Anyway, he apparently also thought that because difficult child had reached 12 yo, he could choose where he wanted to live and thought difficult child would choose him. Well, difficult child was (and is) facing long-term juvy- they aren't going to send him out of state to a relative when they've confirmed that I'm a decent parent. And, the kid's choice of where to live pertains to 2 fit parents- not a 1/2 uncle, so that didn't turn out for him. And, difficult child finally told him he'd rather live in a foster home than with him. [img]:hawaii_girl:[/img] I can't do anything for repercussion unless he starts the phone calls again to sd, GAL, social services, etc., then I can, and will, file charges for harrassment and deflamation of character. [img]:warrior:[/img] You and the others are probably right about the school. I was hoping he could get through- he's half-way through middle school. But, it seems like they did just try to pacify the first half of the year, and things are being "prepped" now. I know that's why they are logging difficult child's behavior- but it hasn't shown what they thought it would. [img]:thumbsdown:[/img] ADHD: yes, nueropsych testing and recent MDE testing was borderline (actually non-conclusive), which isn't eneough reason for stims to me. neuropsychologist also revealed some kind of language and memory impairments. With a questionable Bipolar (mood-disorder) diagnosis, I tend to see the ADHD as secondary. And, the psychiatrist and I agree that the "impairments" that showed up on the neuropsychologist may be (probably are) intermittent. For instance, he had no grade issues last year- he had a B average that started slipping toward a C when he started his typical "unstable" period in the winter. Now, there definitely could be more to it that will come out more and more as he progresses in school, but until we get moods and resulting memory issues under control as much as possible, we don't think we'll be able to tell. Yes, he had a sleep-deprived EEg- came back normal. I still wonder if an MRI or something else might reveal anything that hasn't been considered yet. [img]:dont_know:[/img] Thanks for the PUFFS! Thanks for sending hugs to difficult child, too. You know, he has his moments- good and bad! He's doing homework right now! YIPEE! [img]:woohoo:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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