difficult child is looking at being on the street and I have to be strong. I hope I can be strong. He's lived with his girlfriend and her mother for six months. The mother didn't want him there but didn't want her daughter to move out, as she drains her daughter's bank account every month to supplement her SSI, SSDI, food stamps, and other benefits. She has some expensive habits and didn't want to lose the extra income. So she allowed difficult child to move in. All went reasonably well until difficult child applied for SSI. Now girlfriend's mother has declared that difficult child's application means she'll be investigated, prosecuted, jailed, and made to repay many thousands of $$$. She's furious and she wants difficult child out. difficult child's girlfriend says she wants to leave with him, as she fears that staying will mean she'll never get away from her mother (there are major issues here, to say the least - verbal, emotional, financial abuse). girlfriend definitely needs counseling but has no insurance. She works at a low-paying job that she's supported herself on before, but since her mother arrived in town she's been broke and unable to pay the bills constantly. She hasn't developed the boundaries to say 'no' to her mother. difficult child and girlfriend want to leave her mother's place together ... and guess where they want to go? Yep, to us. And husband says NO, nada, nothing doing, not happening. For which I am grateful. I feel that tug, that desire to be the haven in the storm, but at the same time I cringe at the thought of difficult child home again. Today he spent the afternoon. I asked him to bring the garbage bins up from the road and put up the driveway markers for the winter. He did one but not the other, and only with complaints about how he's had no sleep and feels awful. He watched TV the rest of the time. I know he'd be back to old behavior patterns right away, sleeping all day, up all night, having aches and pains that prevent him from doing anything around the house; reluctantly doing the minimum and getting offended at every request; feeling entitled to comment and complain about other family members; getting angry; and Public Displays of Affection with girlfriend, oh my! I don't think I can deal. I know it would be almost impossible to get them to move on. girlfriend is nice but so disorganized and ineffectual that she would be no help whatsoever in finding a place and moving out. Still, my gut is churning and I have a bad feeling the timing will be such that I have to tell difficult child that he and girlfriend can't move here. That, once they've had the showdown with her mother and walked out the door, they'll be heading to the homeless shelter that requires a referral and police check before permitting people to come. That's the men's shelter - I don't even know if there IS a women's shelter in town. We're a pretty small place. We have lots of room, although my cat breeding business now takes up a good deal of it, including difficult child's old bedroom. Still ... I can't honestly say we don't have room. So I feel like a schmuck, in spite of knowing that it wouldn't be a good idea for difficult child and girlfriend to come here. husband and I are willing to help with first and security deposit on an apartment, but difficult child nixed that today. Feels like being between a rock and a hard place.