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In a bad place...does anyone have a crystal ball?
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 148047" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I decided to shatter my crystal ball. Although society is accepting behavioral health as a part of life, there is still a long way to go. I had a hard time telling my parents and my husband that I had admitted my difficult child to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was extremely hard especially since it was so unexpected by even me. </p><p> </p><p>I have worked in an adult behavioral health facility that served a lot of acute patients who were in and out of treatment - just could not be on their own longer than one refill of medications - either didn't have the ability physically or financially to refill medications or because they felt better didn't think they needed the medications any more. I have seen the worse case scenerios and these came through my crystal ball breaking my heart. </p><p> </p><p>I have since talked with well adjusted independent adults who are on medications similar to my son's. They are the true survivors - the people who have or continue to overcome their challenges but still fit well in society.</p><p> </p><p>I love those success stories. So, I shattered my crystal ball and have decided to focus on the here and now. As long as I do the best I can today, I may prepare for but can't expect the worse but can dream and hope and plan for the best.</p><p> </p><p>As stated in previous post by our wise forum members, we have better tools and a greater understanding of mental health issues today. Your dad's generation were probably a lot like my parents, "There is nothing wrong with him that a quick swift in the rear wouldn't cure." We are learning that there are issues that can be controlled through understanding, guidance, and medications. Our difficult children have a hard road ahead, but they can be happy resourceful adults.</p><p> </p><p>What surprised me was most people reacted the opposite of what I expected. My parents were the most supportive. I think it upset husband the most. husband's sister was also more supportive than I would have expected. I didn't get the rotten tomatoes thrown in my face that I expected from a few people. husband refrained from throwing but I could tell he wasn't happy. His only question, "Did he want to go?" "Yes, it was actually his idea."</p><p> </p><p>So, crystal balls are beautiful but we can only see in them what we know and feel today and we certainly can not know what the future will hold. </p><p> </p><p>The best place to look is into your child's heart. What does your heart say about your child? Listen with eyes on the very best of you difficult child. As long as you continue to pull those most positive characteristics out of your child, the future can be promising.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 148047, member: 5096"] I decided to shatter my crystal ball. Although society is accepting behavioral health as a part of life, there is still a long way to go. I had a hard time telling my parents and my husband that I had admitted my difficult child to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC). It was extremely hard especially since it was so unexpected by even me. I have worked in an adult behavioral health facility that served a lot of acute patients who were in and out of treatment - just could not be on their own longer than one refill of medications - either didn't have the ability physically or financially to refill medications or because they felt better didn't think they needed the medications any more. I have seen the worse case scenerios and these came through my crystal ball breaking my heart. I have since talked with well adjusted independent adults who are on medications similar to my son's. They are the true survivors - the people who have or continue to overcome their challenges but still fit well in society. I love those success stories. So, I shattered my crystal ball and have decided to focus on the here and now. As long as I do the best I can today, I may prepare for but can't expect the worse but can dream and hope and plan for the best. As stated in previous post by our wise forum members, we have better tools and a greater understanding of mental health issues today. Your dad's generation were probably a lot like my parents, "There is nothing wrong with him that a quick swift in the rear wouldn't cure." We are learning that there are issues that can be controlled through understanding, guidance, and medications. Our difficult children have a hard road ahead, but they can be happy resourceful adults. What surprised me was most people reacted the opposite of what I expected. My parents were the most supportive. I think it upset husband the most. husband's sister was also more supportive than I would have expected. I didn't get the rotten tomatoes thrown in my face that I expected from a few people. husband refrained from throwing but I could tell he wasn't happy. His only question, "Did he want to go?" "Yes, it was actually his idea." So, crystal balls are beautiful but we can only see in them what we know and feel today and we certainly can not know what the future will hold. The best place to look is into your child's heart. What does your heart say about your child? Listen with eyes on the very best of you difficult child. As long as you continue to pull those most positive characteristics out of your child, the future can be promising. [/QUOTE]
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