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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 592776" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome. Glad you found us but truly sorry you even had to look. Yes, we have been there done that too. I understand the shock that you are expriencing. Truthfully (even tho I had raised two sons who discovered pot in an earlier generation) I had the hardest time wrapping my head around the grandson's use and the quick repercussions. Like many here I was so proud that he as a gifted student and a super athlete AND polite to a fault AND handsome as heck.</p><p></p><p>The truth was he was drinking and smoking and traveling an alternative road with kids I did not know or like. Sigh.</p><p>Like some others we sent him to three rehab programs. We thought it would open his eyes. Sadly he learned a bunch of new things about alternative society. Each family and each difficult child is different.</p><p></p><p>I do not think now is the time to kick him out. There is still a chance that he could graduate and that is important even if he just skims by. What I THINK I would do is tell him that he only has x months until graduation and you all want him to get that diploma for the sake of his future. I THINK I would tell him that you will not have drugs in your home. Likely I would tell him that IF he brings drugs into your family home...he has to find another home and take ownership of his choices BUT that you love him and pray that he will think about his decisions at this critical time.</p><p></p><p>Very important. You and your husband have to get on the same page NOW. That is critical. One can not be enabling and the other trying tough love. Find a common ground with your husband and make sure you both understand that a united front is the ONLY front that has a chance. I am sending very very caring and supportive hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 592776, member: 35"] Welcome. Glad you found us but truly sorry you even had to look. Yes, we have been there done that too. I understand the shock that you are expriencing. Truthfully (even tho I had raised two sons who discovered pot in an earlier generation) I had the hardest time wrapping my head around the grandson's use and the quick repercussions. Like many here I was so proud that he as a gifted student and a super athlete AND polite to a fault AND handsome as heck. The truth was he was drinking and smoking and traveling an alternative road with kids I did not know or like. Sigh. Like some others we sent him to three rehab programs. We thought it would open his eyes. Sadly he learned a bunch of new things about alternative society. Each family and each difficult child is different. I do not think now is the time to kick him out. There is still a chance that he could graduate and that is important even if he just skims by. What I THINK I would do is tell him that he only has x months until graduation and you all want him to get that diploma for the sake of his future. I THINK I would tell him that you will not have drugs in your home. Likely I would tell him that IF he brings drugs into your family home...he has to find another home and take ownership of his choices BUT that you love him and pray that he will think about his decisions at this critical time. Very important. You and your husband have to get on the same page NOW. That is critical. One can not be enabling and the other trying tough love. Find a common ground with your husband and make sure you both understand that a united front is the ONLY front that has a chance. I am sending very very caring and supportive hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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