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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 411755" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Just from my experience - unexplained bruises/marks on your kid are a *huge* red flag. If at all possible, you need to get up there today and see firsthand what is going on. </p><p></p><p>I allowed myself to be convinced by staff in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #2 that bruises left on my son were... well, I guess "reasonable" would be the word. I so desperately wanted to believe staff... but I shouldn't have. There is absolutely *no* reasonable excuse for handprints to be left on a child, nor bruises, and especially not bite marks. </p><p></p><p>If a child cannot speak freely with you on the phone because staff is listening, that's another red flag. Absolutely, most of thank you's phone calls were supervised, but there's a difference between supervision and intimidation. </p><p></p><p>on the other hand, I understand that our kiddos can sometimes make a mountain out of a molehill, or worse yet, just flat out lie. But .... I think in your daughter's situation, you need to get up there, see her *privately*, and do not hesitate to pull her out if you suspect improper treatment/abuse.</p><p></p><p>About 3 months after I pulled thank you out of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #2, it was shut down by the state due to abuse. I felt horrifically guilty, still do. Follow your gut. There's enough in what you're describing to make me think you need to see her today. </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 411755, member: 8"] Just from my experience - unexplained bruises/marks on your kid are a *huge* red flag. If at all possible, you need to get up there today and see firsthand what is going on. I allowed myself to be convinced by staff in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #2 that bruises left on my son were... well, I guess "reasonable" would be the word. I so desperately wanted to believe staff... but I shouldn't have. There is absolutely *no* reasonable excuse for handprints to be left on a child, nor bruises, and especially not bite marks. If a child cannot speak freely with you on the phone because staff is listening, that's another red flag. Absolutely, most of thank you's phone calls were supervised, but there's a difference between supervision and intimidation. on the other hand, I understand that our kiddos can sometimes make a mountain out of a molehill, or worse yet, just flat out lie. But .... I think in your daughter's situation, you need to get up there, see her *privately*, and do not hesitate to pull her out if you suspect improper treatment/abuse. About 3 months after I pulled thank you out of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #2, it was shut down by the state due to abuse. I felt horrifically guilty, still do. Follow your gut. There's enough in what you're describing to make me think you need to see her today. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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