I am a working mother of two little girls, ages 8 and 5. My 5 year old has become very defiant, resistant, and has been having really bad tantrums lately. All of this is going on in the afterschool program. She was displaying this behavior over the summer in camp, but never displayed this in preschool. I had a crying spell last night and had to call out from work today because i am still upset. my baby used to have 30min long tanturms and crying fits when she was 2 and 3. but it has come back. I'm worried because she when they said they would call me, she said dont call my mom because she will be mean to me... then they tell me they are mandated reporters.. god my husband is clueless to what to do and with my mom suffereing with sever mental illness i'm alone and scared for my baby girl.. someone pleas give me some strategies to dealing with my little one, while making sure my oldest doesnt get left out.