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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 505301" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>He can sign consent forms to allow his doctors and teachers to talk with you. You may want to make it a must, like a condition of living at home. You can also talk to the doctor/teacher but they cannot talk to you. This means you can email or fax notes to them before appts, esp if sending one wth difficult child doesn't work. At the doctor's office you can actually still go in with him. Just like you can take someone in with you.</p><p></p><p>THe doctor needs a comprehensive look at all the info. I don't know what the medications are, but it sounds like they are not at the right dosage or are not the right medications. If at all possible, a neuropsychologist can do a full evaluation to figure out exactly what you are looking at. It involves 6-12 hours of testing broken into several appts and at age 18 insurance may or may not cover it. You would have to ask the ins co. </p><p></p><p>How did he do in high school? Does he have a job? Is there a possible sub abuse problem? I am NOT pointing fingers, just asking because sometimes the parents are the last to know. What makes you think that it is adhd now and he didn't have it in high school or middle or elem school? Has he had a recent mono test? Does he have a lot of aches and pains? Chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia are diseases that can cause some of what you see and also have some other symptoms. Fibro for sure often starts after a virus or disease like mono, chicken pox, etc.... I think CFS follows the same pattern.</p><p></p><p>My concern is that adhd is often more of a wiring problem in the brain and not something that would onset in adulthood this way. So if he didn't have it as a child, you may be looking at something else. That does not mean stimulant medications or strattera (non-stimulant adhd medication) are not going to help, just that it may be different than adhd and have other aspects. Boys his age frequently are not good at communicating. Heck, I have to send a list with my husband or fax it ahead or else he tells the doctor he has no clue why he is there and he is way older than 18. My dad does the same thing and so does my 20yo. Sometimes we insist on a doctor appointment but sometimes we figure if they won't tell someone what is going on then they deserve to feel yucky. But they are functioning and your son is not.</p><p></p><p>A sleep study is something that he needs to have done. It can pinpoint a LOT of problems, and can help find a solution. I don't know what sort of arrangement you have with your son as far as paying the bills, living at home, etc... I do know that with my children they know that if they are living iwth us then they get to sign the paperwork so that I can speak to the doctors and teachers I am paying for. NOT to pry or micromanage them (though sometimes we disagree on what that is, of course) but so that I can help make sure that they communicate the problems and information to the dr that the dr needs to help them. Also so that I can be sure that they understand their medications and other medical directions. </p><p></p><p>Be aware that it is common for teens to sleep a lot more than adults. At 18 he is still a teen and his body and brain are still growing. He also may have some very bad sleep habits/hygeine and this can make a huge difference. You can google sleep hygeine to find out what is and isn't recommended. </p><p></p><p>Welcome, and I hope some of this was helpful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 505301, member: 1233"] He can sign consent forms to allow his doctors and teachers to talk with you. You may want to make it a must, like a condition of living at home. You can also talk to the doctor/teacher but they cannot talk to you. This means you can email or fax notes to them before appts, esp if sending one wth difficult child doesn't work. At the doctor's office you can actually still go in with him. Just like you can take someone in with you. THe doctor needs a comprehensive look at all the info. I don't know what the medications are, but it sounds like they are not at the right dosage or are not the right medications. If at all possible, a neuropsychologist can do a full evaluation to figure out exactly what you are looking at. It involves 6-12 hours of testing broken into several appts and at age 18 insurance may or may not cover it. You would have to ask the ins co. How did he do in high school? Does he have a job? Is there a possible sub abuse problem? I am NOT pointing fingers, just asking because sometimes the parents are the last to know. What makes you think that it is adhd now and he didn't have it in high school or middle or elem school? Has he had a recent mono test? Does he have a lot of aches and pains? Chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia are diseases that can cause some of what you see and also have some other symptoms. Fibro for sure often starts after a virus or disease like mono, chicken pox, etc.... I think CFS follows the same pattern. My concern is that adhd is often more of a wiring problem in the brain and not something that would onset in adulthood this way. So if he didn't have it as a child, you may be looking at something else. That does not mean stimulant medications or strattera (non-stimulant adhd medication) are not going to help, just that it may be different than adhd and have other aspects. Boys his age frequently are not good at communicating. Heck, I have to send a list with my husband or fax it ahead or else he tells the doctor he has no clue why he is there and he is way older than 18. My dad does the same thing and so does my 20yo. Sometimes we insist on a doctor appointment but sometimes we figure if they won't tell someone what is going on then they deserve to feel yucky. But they are functioning and your son is not. A sleep study is something that he needs to have done. It can pinpoint a LOT of problems, and can help find a solution. I don't know what sort of arrangement you have with your son as far as paying the bills, living at home, etc... I do know that with my children they know that if they are living iwth us then they get to sign the paperwork so that I can speak to the doctors and teachers I am paying for. NOT to pry or micromanage them (though sometimes we disagree on what that is, of course) but so that I can help make sure that they communicate the problems and information to the dr that the dr needs to help them. Also so that I can be sure that they understand their medications and other medical directions. Be aware that it is common for teens to sleep a lot more than adults. At 18 he is still a teen and his body and brain are still growing. He also may have some very bad sleep habits/hygeine and this can make a huge difference. You can google sleep hygeine to find out what is and isn't recommended. Welcome, and I hope some of this was helpful. [/QUOTE]
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