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<blockquote data-quote="CCRidr2" data-source="post: 43330" data-attributes="member: 3714"><p>KJS,</p><p></p><p>husband and I used to fight like cats and dogs over difficult child. He would believe the BS manipulation and I wouldn't. Of course, this is exactly what difficult child intended, since then our focus is on each other instead of what he did to begin with. He couldn't believe that a 5,6,7,8,9 yr old could be that manipulative. I don't know exactly the moment when husband finally "got it" but we are now, just in the last month or so, a united front after 8 years of being manipulated by a KID!! </p><p></p><p>by the way leaving is, not now or ever, the answer. Our difficult child's and easy child 1's bio mom left when they were 1 and 6 respectively. easy child 1 had alot of trust issues at first till she finally figured out and believed that I am not going anywhere. difficult child is an exact duplicate of her. If you leave it will now stop the fighting and arguing! He will just argue and fight with someone else and add trust issues to the mix. Hang in there, I know I chose this knowing what may be to come but even if I hadn't I would not give up. Don't get me wrong, I feel like it sometimes but if I did how would that impact him? It has been a long, emotional, rough 8 years but the occasional and very rare "I love you, Mom" keeps me holding on.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs and prayers are coming your way! Going to the grocery store by yourself, or anywhere, and leaving difficult child with husband also helps. Don't make it an option, "I am going to the store, you need to look after difficult child." :wink:, and don't worry about what he's getting into while you're gone, husband will handle it (or not) and maybe he will see the light. Get yourself a coffee and shop away in peace. Laugh at all the other difficult child moms who brought their kids to the store and thank God you left yours at home! It's not a sin to be glad you're alone and in peace, it's a sin to NOT find the time to be alone and have some peace for your own sanity.</p><p></p><p>Cyndi</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CCRidr2, post: 43330, member: 3714"] KJS, husband and I used to fight like cats and dogs over difficult child. He would believe the BS manipulation and I wouldn't. Of course, this is exactly what difficult child intended, since then our focus is on each other instead of what he did to begin with. He couldn't believe that a 5,6,7,8,9 yr old could be that manipulative. I don't know exactly the moment when husband finally "got it" but we are now, just in the last month or so, a united front after 8 years of being manipulated by a KID!! by the way leaving is, not now or ever, the answer. Our difficult child's and easy child 1's bio mom left when they were 1 and 6 respectively. easy child 1 had alot of trust issues at first till she finally figured out and believed that I am not going anywhere. difficult child is an exact duplicate of her. If you leave it will now stop the fighting and arguing! He will just argue and fight with someone else and add trust issues to the mix. Hang in there, I know I chose this knowing what may be to come but even if I hadn't I would not give up. Don't get me wrong, I feel like it sometimes but if I did how would that impact him? It has been a long, emotional, rough 8 years but the occasional and very rare "I love you, Mom" keeps me holding on. Many hugs and prayers are coming your way! Going to the grocery store by yourself, or anywhere, and leaving difficult child with husband also helps. Don't make it an option, "I am going to the store, you need to look after difficult child." [img]:wink:[/img], and don't worry about what he's getting into while you're gone, husband will handle it (or not) and maybe he will see the light. Get yourself a coffee and shop away in peace. Laugh at all the other difficult child moms who brought their kids to the store and thank God you left yours at home! It's not a sin to be glad you're alone and in peace, it's a sin to NOT find the time to be alone and have some peace for your own sanity. Cyndi [/QUOTE]
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