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In The Past, It was Threats, But Tonight Is the Night..
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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 602145" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>You cannot continue to enable him. From what you wrote - there is no motivation for him to change a thing. He has it made!!! He is getting all his needs met and gets to do what he wants. Why in the world would anyone want to change that?? That is easy street baby! I know I am making light of it, but it is true. I have been there done that. </p><p></p><p>I had to give my daughter the choice of rehab or out of the home. She chose to couch surf and it has been almost three years now. Did she get better? Nope. She is now pregnant and in jail. BUT, I am no longer helping her kill herself. I am positive had I continued to let her live here, I would most likely have found her dead upstairs, or her brother would have picked up her bad habits. I have a son that is younger, too. </p><p></p><p>Once she left, he positively flourished!! Our home is SO peaceful now. We are all so much happier. It is amazing to see the chaos that she alone caused in this home. </p><p></p><p>I think you are doing the right thing - your son needs a REASON to change. He needs to hit bottom. He needs to face consequences that make using drugs no longer worth it...</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS))) keep leaning on us for support - we have been in your shoes...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 602145, member: 15796"] You cannot continue to enable him. From what you wrote - there is no motivation for him to change a thing. He has it made!!! He is getting all his needs met and gets to do what he wants. Why in the world would anyone want to change that?? That is easy street baby! I know I am making light of it, but it is true. I have been there done that. I had to give my daughter the choice of rehab or out of the home. She chose to couch surf and it has been almost three years now. Did she get better? Nope. She is now pregnant and in jail. BUT, I am no longer helping her kill herself. I am positive had I continued to let her live here, I would most likely have found her dead upstairs, or her brother would have picked up her bad habits. I have a son that is younger, too. Once she left, he positively flourished!! Our home is SO peaceful now. We are all so much happier. It is amazing to see the chaos that she alone caused in this home. I think you are doing the right thing - your son needs a REASON to change. He needs to hit bottom. He needs to face consequences that make using drugs no longer worth it... (((HUGS))) keep leaning on us for support - we have been in your shoes... [/QUOTE]
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