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<blockquote data-quote="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow" data-source="post: 360331" data-attributes="member: 8405"><p>First, CONGRATULATIONS for all your hard work toward your degree here's a bunch of hugs for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>(((((((((((((Nomad)))))))))))))</p><p></p><p>Second. I'm sorry your difficult child is going through this and dragging your heart through the mess with her. </p><p></p><p>Detachment... easier said than done. </p><p></p><p>I'm noticing I've been going through seasons... where I want to know what's up with my legally adult difficult children and seasons where I seriously cannot bear to hear a speck of what they are doing in their lives. </p><p></p><p>I'm still looking for the "off" switch as far as love and caring go... because it seems that is where most of our pain and suffering comes in. </p><p></p><p>I'm encouraged by the parable of the prodigal son... His Father doesn't go chasing after him... he prays, watches and waits. </p><p></p><p>That's what we've been doing... praying and waiting. We hope our two will not need to have rebellious adult-children of their own to understand all that is going on!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Healthy people don't keep making these horrible decisions. It has been helpful for me to better understand the nuances of our difficult children' mental illness. When my anger/frustration arises, I do my best to direct it away from my mentally ill children and focus it with purpose towards making a difference with other families who are enduring their type of mental illness. </p><p></p><p>I've been reaching out to other adoptive parents with younger kids and trying to share with them what techniques we've had success with. We had 10 beautiful years! I've been reaching out to encourage those parenting pre-adolescents with Reactive Attachment Disorder to seek help from counselors that understand Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and will support the parents in their role before the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-kids reach an age where parental rights fly out the window. </p><p></p><p><3</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad to see you moving on with your life, finishing your degree and building a beautiful future!!!! </p><p></p><p>I pray you'd have wisdom on how to best deal with your difficult child's struggles.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheyAreLegallyAdultsNow, post: 360331, member: 8405"] First, CONGRATULATIONS for all your hard work toward your degree here's a bunch of hugs for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (((((((((((((Nomad))))))))))))) Second. I'm sorry your difficult child is going through this and dragging your heart through the mess with her. Detachment... easier said than done. I'm noticing I've been going through seasons... where I want to know what's up with my legally adult difficult children and seasons where I seriously cannot bear to hear a speck of what they are doing in their lives. I'm still looking for the "off" switch as far as love and caring go... because it seems that is where most of our pain and suffering comes in. I'm encouraged by the parable of the prodigal son... His Father doesn't go chasing after him... he prays, watches and waits. That's what we've been doing... praying and waiting. We hope our two will not need to have rebellious adult-children of their own to understand all that is going on!!!!! Healthy people don't keep making these horrible decisions. It has been helpful for me to better understand the nuances of our difficult children' mental illness. When my anger/frustration arises, I do my best to direct it away from my mentally ill children and focus it with purpose towards making a difference with other families who are enduring their type of mental illness. I've been reaching out to other adoptive parents with younger kids and trying to share with them what techniques we've had success with. We had 10 beautiful years! I've been reaching out to encourage those parenting pre-adolescents with Reactive Attachment Disorder to seek help from counselors that understand Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and will support the parents in their role before the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)-kids reach an age where parental rights fly out the window. <3 I'm so glad to see you moving on with your life, finishing your degree and building a beautiful future!!!! I pray you'd have wisdom on how to best deal with your difficult child's struggles. [/QUOTE]
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