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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 492895" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I really admire the steps you have taken and realizing that his developmental/learning needs will play a part in how you deal with it. sounds like you are taking a balanced approach. Being prepared in case it is something more than typical and addressing what is typical. </p><p></p><p>Q has had several inappropriate moments like when he had the medication reaction he pulled his pants down and was did it over and over because the boys who saw it told him to pull his pants up but also laughed (uncomfortable , trying not to be mean etc.) and he takes that as ...oh it is funny so I will do it again. He did it in psychiatric hospital on those days they didn't give him Concerta. He has always had no modesty, we are only the two of us so it was not as pressing an issue and in public he doesn't do anything typically. but now that he knows to make those sounds (from the kid in psychiatric hospital who told him this is what sex sounds like) and that the words have gotten so much attention, he does it a little more. We have had none of it on vacation this week. I have many friends who have kids who have found porn. It is just too easy to find these days. I remember when cable first came out, seeing those scrambled channels on tv and we would try to watch between the lines. I am no sexual deviant. Kids just are going to want to know and impulsive kids and kids who have not much social sense (like who to say certain things to, where to do things, how to say things, who they can touch and when etc.) are going to have typical issues PLUS. Does that make them seriously disordered sexually, Probably not in many cases...but can we take that chance....HECK NO. There ARE going to be kids who can't control it because of their developmental issues, neurological issues, mental health issues, and we have to do what you are doing, really really pay attention. Protect everyone, and balance things with avoiding shame and and encouraging them to come to us so they dont sneak and do something with consequences they can't even imagine. Q can't go out side yet with kids.... I need to see even more progress and self control in all areas, even if he doesn't do these things again. I will not risk it. </p><p></p><p>Good job and I am glad you brought up this important topic. It is a harder one to discuss.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 492895, member: 12886"] I really admire the steps you have taken and realizing that his developmental/learning needs will play a part in how you deal with it. sounds like you are taking a balanced approach. Being prepared in case it is something more than typical and addressing what is typical. Q has had several inappropriate moments like when he had the medication reaction he pulled his pants down and was did it over and over because the boys who saw it told him to pull his pants up but also laughed (uncomfortable , trying not to be mean etc.) and he takes that as ...oh it is funny so I will do it again. He did it in psychiatric hospital on those days they didn't give him Concerta. He has always had no modesty, we are only the two of us so it was not as pressing an issue and in public he doesn't do anything typically. but now that he knows to make those sounds (from the kid in psychiatric hospital who told him this is what sex sounds like) and that the words have gotten so much attention, he does it a little more. We have had none of it on vacation this week. I have many friends who have kids who have found porn. It is just too easy to find these days. I remember when cable first came out, seeing those scrambled channels on tv and we would try to watch between the lines. I am no sexual deviant. Kids just are going to want to know and impulsive kids and kids who have not much social sense (like who to say certain things to, where to do things, how to say things, who they can touch and when etc.) are going to have typical issues PLUS. Does that make them seriously disordered sexually, Probably not in many cases...but can we take that chance....HECK NO. There ARE going to be kids who can't control it because of their developmental issues, neurological issues, mental health issues, and we have to do what you are doing, really really pay attention. Protect everyone, and balance things with avoiding shame and and encouraging them to come to us so they dont sneak and do something with consequences they can't even imagine. Q can't go out side yet with kids.... I need to see even more progress and self control in all areas, even if he doesn't do these things again. I will not risk it. Good job and I am glad you brought up this important topic. It is a harder one to discuss. [/QUOTE]
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