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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 144979" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Carolanne, so very sorry you're having to endure this trial. But for the life of me, I can't understand why the boyfriend has so much control. Yes, she's 18, but you're her biological parent and closest living relative. If she's still unconscious, doesn't that make you the most likely guardian until she awakes and can make her wishes known?</p><p></p><p>Also, are you sure about the common law thing? I have two friends here in the lower 48 that are in common-law marriages. While I don't doubt that their wives can speak for them in similar circumstances, the difference is that they have <strong>both</strong> made their intentions clear - they are life partners, and are married in every way except at the courthouse. More importantly, they've stated this to many people in an unambiguous way so there is no doubt about the relationship.</p><p></p><p>As an outsider looking in (from another country, no less), I wonder if simply living with someone as boyfriend/girlfriend is truly enough to define a common-law marriage. Wouldn't your daughter have to have made some kind of declaration to that affect, even if it was informally to friends or other relatives? While your daughter is incapacitated, and without <em>some</em> evidence that this was her wish (to be this guy's common-law wife), him <em>saying</em> it's so shouldn't <strong>make it so</strong>, at least not to me.</p><p></p><p>Maybe you could play the situation a bit differently and petition to be appointed her <em>guardian ad litum</em> while she's still unconscious - and then push the boyfriend aside until she wakes?</p><p></p><p>Just some thoughts. Prayers and best wishes for you and your loved ones.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 144979, member: 3579"] Carolanne, so very sorry you're having to endure this trial. But for the life of me, I can't understand why the boyfriend has so much control. Yes, she's 18, but you're her biological parent and closest living relative. If she's still unconscious, doesn't that make you the most likely guardian until she awakes and can make her wishes known? Also, are you sure about the common law thing? I have two friends here in the lower 48 that are in common-law marriages. While I don't doubt that their wives can speak for them in similar circumstances, the difference is that they have [B]both[/B] made their intentions clear - they are life partners, and are married in every way except at the courthouse. More importantly, they've stated this to many people in an unambiguous way so there is no doubt about the relationship. As an outsider looking in (from another country, no less), I wonder if simply living with someone as boyfriend/girlfriend is truly enough to define a common-law marriage. Wouldn't your daughter have to have made some kind of declaration to that affect, even if it was informally to friends or other relatives? While your daughter is incapacitated, and without [I]some[/I] evidence that this was her wish (to be this guy's common-law wife), him [I]saying[/I] it's so shouldn't [B]make it so[/B], at least not to me. Maybe you could play the situation a bit differently and petition to be appointed her [I]guardian ad litum[/I] while she's still unconscious - and then push the boyfriend aside until she wakes? Just some thoughts. Prayers and best wishes for you and your loved ones. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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