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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 144994" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>All I can say is "Wow" <..shakes head in confusion...></p><p></p><p>I don't understand it, but I'll accept that you're right about the laws in Ontario. That said, there MUST be some recourse for this - it can't be that cut-and-dried, can it? People really can drift into marriages simply by living together for six months? How do you then get a common-law marriage dissolved? </p><p></p><p>And, since it's true, there's always the "if you take the cat, you get the litterbox" tactic. </p><p></p><p>My Dad and his wife have been separated for years, but his estranged wife has continued to make ridiculously excessive demands for support. Since his stroke, she's tried to enforce her will over his estate (even though they haven't lived together for nearly 8 years). While I won't go into the details of right&wrong, I <strong>will</strong> say she's never missed an opportunity to take as much from him as she can get, and far more than she'd be legally entitled to in a divorce.</p><p></p><p>However, my Dad's "estate" is dwindling, and can barely meet his medical requirements. Lately, his partner who's taken care of him for over 8 years has started with "okay, if you're entitled to a portion of what little money he has, you're also entitled to share a similar proportion of his debt". That debt isn't insignificant, either, because of some very bad business situations while they were still married and living together.</p><p></p><p>So, she got the "cat" (a share of the assets), but didn't want the "litterbox" (a similar share of the debt and other obligations). Once that threat was made, she's been much easier to deal with, and less of a pain in the arse.</p><p></p><p>In this case, if boyfriend is going to assume the mantle of authority as her "husband", are there legal obligations he can be held to that would benefit Jess? boyfriend may be enjoying the "power" he has over the situation, but he can probably be forced to accept the other responsibilities that go along with that new role as well.</p><p></p><p>I won't try to list them, but I'm sure there are any number of accepted responsibilities and obligations that even a common-law "husband" is legally bound to meet for his "wife". If he's not doing these things (and I bet a few could be found), it could make it easier to get a guardian appointment, couldn't it? Or, at least, if he's threatened with the litterbox to keep the cat, maybe he'll at least back off and stop harassing her parents?</p><p></p><p>Just some off-the-cuff thoughts, but this thing is getting to me a bit and I can't imagine my own daughter in a similar situation, and her parents being relegated to "unauthorized visitor" status by an outsider.</p><p></p><p>As my bookworm son Sarge would say, "Now I'm <strong>vexxed</strong>!"</p><p></p><p>There must be some way....</p><p>?</p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 144994, member: 3579"] All I can say is "Wow" <..shakes head in confusion...> I don't understand it, but I'll accept that you're right about the laws in Ontario. That said, there MUST be some recourse for this - it can't be that cut-and-dried, can it? People really can drift into marriages simply by living together for six months? How do you then get a common-law marriage dissolved? And, since it's true, there's always the "if you take the cat, you get the litterbox" tactic. My Dad and his wife have been separated for years, but his estranged wife has continued to make ridiculously excessive demands for support. Since his stroke, she's tried to enforce her will over his estate (even though they haven't lived together for nearly 8 years). While I won't go into the details of right&wrong, I [B]will[/B] say she's never missed an opportunity to take as much from him as she can get, and far more than she'd be legally entitled to in a divorce. However, my Dad's "estate" is dwindling, and can barely meet his medical requirements. Lately, his partner who's taken care of him for over 8 years has started with "okay, if you're entitled to a portion of what little money he has, you're also entitled to share a similar proportion of his debt". That debt isn't insignificant, either, because of some very bad business situations while they were still married and living together. So, she got the "cat" (a share of the assets), but didn't want the "litterbox" (a similar share of the debt and other obligations). Once that threat was made, she's been much easier to deal with, and less of a pain in the arse. In this case, if boyfriend is going to assume the mantle of authority as her "husband", are there legal obligations he can be held to that would benefit Jess? boyfriend may be enjoying the "power" he has over the situation, but he can probably be forced to accept the other responsibilities that go along with that new role as well. I won't try to list them, but I'm sure there are any number of accepted responsibilities and obligations that even a common-law "husband" is legally bound to meet for his "wife". If he's not doing these things (and I bet a few could be found), it could make it easier to get a guardian appointment, couldn't it? Or, at least, if he's threatened with the litterbox to keep the cat, maybe he'll at least back off and stop harassing her parents? Just some off-the-cuff thoughts, but this thing is getting to me a bit and I can't imagine my own daughter in a similar situation, and her parents being relegated to "unauthorized visitor" status by an outsider. As my bookworm son Sarge would say, "Now I'm [B]vexxed[/B]!" There must be some way.... ? Mikey [/QUOTE]
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