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Nana's are Beautiful
Travis called me tonight. He asked me if I thought it was a good idea for him to take classes at the community college that will transfer to Wright State next year instead of living on campus. Real life has taught him some valuable lessons. 1. Budgeting money for a whole year is hard. 2. the real world is expensive.
He's out of living money. He's waiting on his W2 to file his taxes for his refund to live off that. He put in an application at Meijers for a job. The kid is broke and running out of food.
He said he discovered he can't live on his own. I object to that. I think he's done an awesome job of doing just that. Maybe not perfect. But that's the way life is. What looked to him to be alot of money to live on......turned out to be not nearly enough. Big lesson learned. He didn't really do anything wrong......it just ran out because it really wasn't enough to begin with. (which is what I was so worried about back in sept)
I can't do much about it right now. I've got no spare cash. I may call easy child and see if she could go up this weekend and let him shop at aldi's for enough to hold him until his tax return. But I don't know how she is for spare cash at the moment either. So we'll just have to see about that.
I no more than got off the phone with Travis then Nichole had called. During the course of our talking we wound up discussing her relationship with boyfriend......such as it is. She is about done with boyfriend I believe. Fed up with his spoiled childish ways and his blaming everything on her while he does nothing to contribute or to "work together as a team" as he likes to call it. Gag me.
The girl is definately feeling trapped. She's regretting not getting her own apartment without boyfriend. She confessed she's tried to get him to leave several times and he refuses to go. Police won't make him go because she didn't listen and put him on the lease.
I told her she needs to start putting back money for her own place then. But if it gets bad.......and she's certain she's done, finished, kiput.......and just can't be there anymore that she is not ever trapped. She is to come here. And if she has to sleep in a sleeping bag on the living room floor we will make it work until we can get her into her own place. A one time offer. I'm no one's revolving door. But no daughter of mine will ever be "trapped" into a relationship with a man simply because she has nowhere to go.
I know, I know. Maybe that makes me the biggest svcker on the block. But that is the way I am and I'm not going to change now.
Nichole didn't commit one way or the other. I didn't expect her to. We talked about a lot of stuff. We talked about how hard she's worked to grow up and mature and be responsible, while boyfriend has not moved forward in any of those areas in all the years they've been together. I explained to her that it is possible to care very much for someone and still not be able to be in a relationship with them or live with them. How if she walks away it doesn't mean she's failed because everyone knows she gave it 100 percent.
She has a lot to think about. And now she can do that thinking knowing that she is not without a place to go if that is what she must do.
If I'm wrong I guess it will be on my head. But God help me I just couldn't do it. I just couldn't let her think she had no where to go. Not with knowing the manipulative games boyfriend plays with her head. Nope. Couldn't do it.
She may never take me up on the offer. But sometimes just knowing the offer is there makes you brave enough to make the right decisions.
And with a voice choked with tears she told me I'm the best Mom ever. That spoke volumes.
I knew what I was opening myself up for when I made the offer. So sling it at me. Detachment went right out the window. husband is furious with me. I haven't seen him turn that many shades of red in years. I didn't argue the point. It's not up for debate. But my daughter will never be made to feel that she has to stay in a relationship with an abusive manipulative *astard simply because she has no where else to turn. Told husband if he doesn't like it to not let the door hit him in the
on the way out.
It's been a loooong day. whew
He's out of living money. He's waiting on his W2 to file his taxes for his refund to live off that. He put in an application at Meijers for a job. The kid is broke and running out of food.
He said he discovered he can't live on his own. I object to that. I think he's done an awesome job of doing just that. Maybe not perfect. But that's the way life is. What looked to him to be alot of money to live on......turned out to be not nearly enough. Big lesson learned. He didn't really do anything wrong......it just ran out because it really wasn't enough to begin with. (which is what I was so worried about back in sept)
I can't do much about it right now. I've got no spare cash. I may call easy child and see if she could go up this weekend and let him shop at aldi's for enough to hold him until his tax return. But I don't know how she is for spare cash at the moment either. So we'll just have to see about that.
I no more than got off the phone with Travis then Nichole had called. During the course of our talking we wound up discussing her relationship with boyfriend......such as it is. She is about done with boyfriend I believe. Fed up with his spoiled childish ways and his blaming everything on her while he does nothing to contribute or to "work together as a team" as he likes to call it. Gag me.
The girl is definately feeling trapped. She's regretting not getting her own apartment without boyfriend. She confessed she's tried to get him to leave several times and he refuses to go. Police won't make him go because she didn't listen and put him on the lease.
I told her she needs to start putting back money for her own place then. But if it gets bad.......and she's certain she's done, finished, kiput.......and just can't be there anymore that she is not ever trapped. She is to come here. And if she has to sleep in a sleeping bag on the living room floor we will make it work until we can get her into her own place. A one time offer. I'm no one's revolving door. But no daughter of mine will ever be "trapped" into a relationship with a man simply because she has nowhere to go.
I know, I know. Maybe that makes me the biggest svcker on the block. But that is the way I am and I'm not going to change now.
Nichole didn't commit one way or the other. I didn't expect her to. We talked about a lot of stuff. We talked about how hard she's worked to grow up and mature and be responsible, while boyfriend has not moved forward in any of those areas in all the years they've been together. I explained to her that it is possible to care very much for someone and still not be able to be in a relationship with them or live with them. How if she walks away it doesn't mean she's failed because everyone knows she gave it 100 percent.
She has a lot to think about. And now she can do that thinking knowing that she is not without a place to go if that is what she must do.
If I'm wrong I guess it will be on my head. But God help me I just couldn't do it. I just couldn't let her think she had no where to go. Not with knowing the manipulative games boyfriend plays with her head. Nope. Couldn't do it.
She may never take me up on the offer. But sometimes just knowing the offer is there makes you brave enough to make the right decisions.
And with a voice choked with tears she told me I'm the best Mom ever. That spoke volumes.
I knew what I was opening myself up for when I made the offer. So sling it at me. Detachment went right out the window. husband is furious with me. I haven't seen him turn that many shades of red in years. I didn't argue the point. It's not up for debate. But my daughter will never be made to feel that she has to stay in a relationship with an abusive manipulative *astard simply because she has no where else to turn. Told husband if he doesn't like it to not let the door hit him in the
on the way out.It's been a loooong day. whew
