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<blockquote data-quote="scent of cedar" data-source="post: 610502" data-attributes="member: 1721"><p>Recovering? You are a joy to work and play through this stuff with! :O)</p><p></p><p>Carole King: Tapestry</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=68v4NZG4xgE" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=68v4NZG4xgE</a></p><p></p><p>I think we are speeding one another's process, Recovering. It spooks me, a little. I think we are never done and so, I wonder what's coming next. Our daughters, our mothers, ourselves. As long as we are here, we are here for a purpose. I think it works that where we direct our attention is where we do our work. I think all of us, every one of us, is here to accomplish whatever it is and that, when we are truly done...life ends. There isn't anyone still here who isn't working, I don't think.</p><p></p><p>You know how they say life is not only stranger than we think it is, but stranger than we CAN think it is.</p><p></p><p>I like that.</p><p></p><p>And it all begins, again.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>***************</p><p></p><p>I can relate to Frankenstein too, Recovering. Stitched up out of the pieces of dead people, brought to life without a clue and taught only that he was reprehensible, that he was a created creature and so, had no right to define himself as anything other than what his creator/parent saw in him....</p><p></p><p>That would be me.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>A big part of my own therapy was that breakthrough part about "Damaged, not defective. I was okay, once."</p><p></p><p>I love Frankenstein. Loved the way he got all mad. Felt so badly for him when finally, he became who the villagers' fear taught him he was. To me, that seems like a great analogy for what happens to a child in a dysfunctional family. Who might Frankenstein have become, had he been cherished for the miracle he was, rather than feared? Remember the movie where he found the little girl? It was night time, and he brought her to the village. The villagers reacted out of fear, and the movie goes on from there.</p><p></p><p>***************</p><p></p><p>Oh, Recovering, I haven't been clear enough. I wholeheartedly agree that we do need to go back and save the lives of the children we were. All the little girls or boys, stopped in their tracks and frozen, waiting for us to understand for them that what happened to them was wrong, should never have happened. You are right. Until we do that, we function without really being alive ~ function out of anger and defensiveness and fear of exposure. We don't even know how much of ourselves we are missing, until that rush of feeling is released, and is available to us, again.</p><p></p><p>I just get cranky and out of sorts with how nasty everything was for me. Know what I think? We are always replaying the areas we need to pay attention to. If we are fortunate, we are able to see and understand the events that appear to help us rethink ourselves, re-believe and rebirth ourselves. You are right. Sometimes, I just get too sad, and I don't want to do it for a little while. Plus, it's hard to pull up those old feelings and not pull a Frankenstein on my mother.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>*******************</p><p></p><p>I am glad you liked the story, Recovering. </p><p></p><p>I like it, too.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="scent of cedar, post: 610502, member: 1721"] Recovering? You are a joy to work and play through this stuff with! :O) Carole King: Tapestry [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=68v4NZG4xgE[/url] I think we are speeding one another's process, Recovering. It spooks me, a little. I think we are never done and so, I wonder what's coming next. Our daughters, our mothers, ourselves. As long as we are here, we are here for a purpose. I think it works that where we direct our attention is where we do our work. I think all of us, every one of us, is here to accomplish whatever it is and that, when we are truly done...life ends. There isn't anyone still here who isn't working, I don't think. You know how they say life is not only stranger than we think it is, but stranger than we CAN think it is. I like that. And it all begins, again. *************** I can relate to Frankenstein too, Recovering. Stitched up out of the pieces of dead people, brought to life without a clue and taught only that he was reprehensible, that he was a created creature and so, had no right to define himself as anything other than what his creator/parent saw in him.... That would be me. :O) A big part of my own therapy was that breakthrough part about "Damaged, not defective. I was okay, once." I love Frankenstein. Loved the way he got all mad. Felt so badly for him when finally, he became who the villagers' fear taught him he was. To me, that seems like a great analogy for what happens to a child in a dysfunctional family. Who might Frankenstein have become, had he been cherished for the miracle he was, rather than feared? Remember the movie where he found the little girl? It was night time, and he brought her to the village. The villagers reacted out of fear, and the movie goes on from there. *************** Oh, Recovering, I haven't been clear enough. I wholeheartedly agree that we do need to go back and save the lives of the children we were. All the little girls or boys, stopped in their tracks and frozen, waiting for us to understand for them that what happened to them was wrong, should never have happened. You are right. Until we do that, we function without really being alive ~ function out of anger and defensiveness and fear of exposure. We don't even know how much of ourselves we are missing, until that rush of feeling is released, and is available to us, again. I just get cranky and out of sorts with how nasty everything was for me. Know what I think? We are always replaying the areas we need to pay attention to. If we are fortunate, we are able to see and understand the events that appear to help us rethink ourselves, re-believe and rebirth ourselves. You are right. Sometimes, I just get too sad, and I don't want to do it for a little while. Plus, it's hard to pull up those old feelings and not pull a Frankenstein on my mother. :O) ******************* I am glad you liked the story, Recovering. I like it, too. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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