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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 610571" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you Cedar, you are a joy to work and play with as well. Well put.</p><p></p><p>I had that album by Carole King and played it until it wore out......such good memories.</p><p></p><p>You are a mirror image for me, you have experienced similar events and come around to an interesting point of view, almost exactly like my own except you language it differently. I like the way you put it. </p><p></p><p>I agree that we are never done. I have looked at it like we all have a Mission and once we get through our own "stuff" learn the lessons we need to learn, then we use our gifts and talents to support and serve others on our Mission. As long we we are here, (in my world) we are working on our Mission. That is my belief.</p><p></p><p>I understand and agree that we are "replaying the areas we need to pay attention to" I call that 'following the clues.' It's always seemed to me that what needs to be addressed comes into our consciousness freely and if we are awake and not in too much denial, we can look there............following the clues has worked for me......it's as if our subconscious spits out the next step for us to recognize and heal. The act of holding all of that down is exhausting and takes way more energy.</p><p></p><p>I have always loved to travel and that has given me many opportunities to leave this behind for awhile. I feel fortunate in that I could put it all away, take off and really have fun.......I think that gave me the space from the heaviness to then come back and do it all over again. A good part of that magical, free child actually survived within me......</p><p></p><p>Yes, Cedar, during many of my worst and most depressing times, there were always, always people who showed up, angels, helpers, teachers, friends........the list is endless. Buddha said "when the student is ready, the teacher appears." I have always believed that. It has been true for me since I was a little girl.</p><p></p><p>Yes, this site offers us those helpers, those angels who show up with a kind word or a piece of experience. I will always treasure the helpers here who extended a kindness, a word, an ear when my heart was breaking in a million pieces every single day...........it does seem as if we stumble in here, for me in the darkest hour, in the middle of the night..........as lonely and isolated and scared and all the rest................and here is an oasis........... in a drought of epic proportions............. </p><p></p><p>I'm so glad you saw my THANK YOU! <em> You are a treasure.....</em>......<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/happy-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":happy-very:" title="happy-very :happy-very:" data-shortname=":happy-very:" /></p><p></p><p>I have the book <u>Women who run with the wolves</u>, I'll have to look that story up, thank you! I love the red shoes and the meaning behind it all. Wow.</p><p></p><p>I understand what you are saying about the feminine and the masculine and the degradation.........perhaps at some point we will have a collective power which honors both genders and utilizes <strong>all</strong> the gifts.........maybe our granddaughters will be wearing red to the Inaugural Ball as the Ambassadors of Compassion, Honor and Integrity!</p><p></p><p>I have read about Jung and his philosophies and I was at one point (of course!!) in Jungian therapy..........it was very cool. And, I have read Joseph Campbell and I believe in the collective consciousness and the power of myth and symbols. I've studied some of this as it relates to my own journey. </p><p></p><p>I believe that love conquers fear too. And, yes I always thought that the light I shone on my daughter was every bit of love I could muster. I have had dreams like that throughout my life, sounds as if you have too. Native Americans have called those BIG dreams.............the ones which have the power to change your life. The dream about the red dresses was 24 years ago and it still moves me when I think about it. I was just thinking that the feminine power in my family was closeted........hmmmm......</p><p></p><p>Reading your dream about those old fuse boxes immediately brought one word to my mind..........power. Reaching for your power. I went to a dream specialist (I DO live in California remember!!) and she told me in looking at my dreams to imagine I played all parts in the dream, even the inanimate objects..........and then try to add it all up.............</p><p></p><p>Your other dream immediately conjured up an image of both you and I, scraped clean by the ocean.............. the symbol of feelings/emotions is water...........cleansed.........of rust and dirt........</p><p></p><p>When I mention that I am done with the healing, it is the family generational healing I am speaking of. I feel I accomplished that now. The detachment from my daughter, seems to have set me free............and whatever happens with my difficult child, I feel as if she is free too...........I am not entirely sure what that means for her, she may be too steeped in the darkness to recognize freedom..............but it is now up to her to find her way to the light. </p><p></p><p>It took me 40 years to work through detaching from each member of my family in a healthy way, my daughter was the final piece of the puzzle. That is what is done. </p><p></p><p>I am not entirely sure what this next stage of life is about. I do believe freedom holds the executive office, perhaps followed by play, fun and creativity. What do you think Cedar? What's on that horizon?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 610571, member: 13542"] Thank you Cedar, you are a joy to work and play with as well. Well put. I had that album by Carole King and played it until it wore out......such good memories. You are a mirror image for me, you have experienced similar events and come around to an interesting point of view, almost exactly like my own except you language it differently. I like the way you put it. I agree that we are never done. I have looked at it like we all have a Mission and once we get through our own "stuff" learn the lessons we need to learn, then we use our gifts and talents to support and serve others on our Mission. As long we we are here, (in my world) we are working on our Mission. That is my belief. I understand and agree that we are "replaying the areas we need to pay attention to" I call that 'following the clues.' It's always seemed to me that what needs to be addressed comes into our consciousness freely and if we are awake and not in too much denial, we can look there............following the clues has worked for me......it's as if our subconscious spits out the next step for us to recognize and heal. The act of holding all of that down is exhausting and takes way more energy. I have always loved to travel and that has given me many opportunities to leave this behind for awhile. I feel fortunate in that I could put it all away, take off and really have fun.......I think that gave me the space from the heaviness to then come back and do it all over again. A good part of that magical, free child actually survived within me...... Yes, Cedar, during many of my worst and most depressing times, there were always, always people who showed up, angels, helpers, teachers, friends........the list is endless. Buddha said "when the student is ready, the teacher appears." I have always believed that. It has been true for me since I was a little girl. Yes, this site offers us those helpers, those angels who show up with a kind word or a piece of experience. I will always treasure the helpers here who extended a kindness, a word, an ear when my heart was breaking in a million pieces every single day...........it does seem as if we stumble in here, for me in the darkest hour, in the middle of the night..........as lonely and isolated and scared and all the rest................and here is an oasis........... in a drought of epic proportions............. I'm so glad you saw my THANK YOU! [I] You are a treasure.....[/I]......:happy-very: I have the book [U]Women who run with the wolves[/U], I'll have to look that story up, thank you! I love the red shoes and the meaning behind it all. Wow. I understand what you are saying about the feminine and the masculine and the degradation.........perhaps at some point we will have a collective power which honors both genders and utilizes [B]all[/B] the gifts.........maybe our granddaughters will be wearing red to the Inaugural Ball as the Ambassadors of Compassion, Honor and Integrity! I have read about Jung and his philosophies and I was at one point (of course!!) in Jungian therapy..........it was very cool. And, I have read Joseph Campbell and I believe in the collective consciousness and the power of myth and symbols. I've studied some of this as it relates to my own journey. I believe that love conquers fear too. And, yes I always thought that the light I shone on my daughter was every bit of love I could muster. I have had dreams like that throughout my life, sounds as if you have too. Native Americans have called those BIG dreams.............the ones which have the power to change your life. The dream about the red dresses was 24 years ago and it still moves me when I think about it. I was just thinking that the feminine power in my family was closeted........hmmmm...... Reading your dream about those old fuse boxes immediately brought one word to my mind..........power. Reaching for your power. I went to a dream specialist (I DO live in California remember!!) and she told me in looking at my dreams to imagine I played all parts in the dream, even the inanimate objects..........and then try to add it all up............. Your other dream immediately conjured up an image of both you and I, scraped clean by the ocean.............. the symbol of feelings/emotions is water...........cleansed.........of rust and dirt........ When I mention that I am done with the healing, it is the family generational healing I am speaking of. I feel I accomplished that now. The detachment from my daughter, seems to have set me free............and whatever happens with my difficult child, I feel as if she is free too...........I am not entirely sure what that means for her, she may be too steeped in the darkness to recognize freedom..............but it is now up to her to find her way to the light. It took me 40 years to work through detaching from each member of my family in a healthy way, my daughter was the final piece of the puzzle. That is what is done. I am not entirely sure what this next stage of life is about. I do believe freedom holds the executive office, perhaps followed by play, fun and creativity. What do you think Cedar? What's on that horizon? [/QUOTE]
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