husband had been send difficult child text messages trying to see if we could get some communication going...
difficult child finally responded this afternoon with a series of threats about how she was going to call the police on us and if we expected to have her come back, we were going to have to get a few things straightened out. (Her words)
Then, we get a call from the father of the guy difficult child is staying with. Turns out the man is a retired police officer. Threatened husband. Told him if he didn't allow difficult child back home right now - he was pressing charges and husband was going to be facing serious jail time.
husband told him to go right ahead.
The man was not prepared for this response. He and husband talked for a few minutes....and then husband invited him over to discuss things.
I had been going through my paperwork to copy a few things for DammitJanet - so I left my files on the kitchen table. The man (H) and his wife (A) seemed like very nice people who had been given a horror story about our abusive nature. They were actually afraid to come into our house! So H approached the door first, and when he decided we were not luring him in to kill him, he signaled for his wife to join us...
So we sat down over coffee and went through some of my files.
H and A were stunned! They then revealed a few things they had noticed about difficult child, and you could see the puzzle pieces clicking into place for them. Now all this time, they had left difficult child sitting out in their car. Apparantly, the original plan was for H to intimidate the heck out of us...and then send difficult child inside.
Instead, A went out to get her purse, because she suddenly did not feel safe leaving her valuables in the car alone with difficult child.
After a while, difficult child was invited in to join the conversation and OH was she upset! This had NOT gone the way she planned at all!
DJ told her she could come home if she followed house rules, closed her new fb account and turned in her cell phone. H and A encouraged her that this was the right thing to do.
But it was so obvious that difficult child was upset. The four adults ended up telling her that ultimately, the choice to come home and comply was up to her. difficult child decided she could not come home right now because her deoderant was at H and A's house... And H and A decided to accept this because they had originally told difficult child that she was welcome to spend the whole weekend, and they did not want to make her any more upset.
So they took her home with them tonight - with plans to get her to church first thing in the morning.
I almost feel bad for these nice people who just thought they were helping a "poor kid"...
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And figure this one out:
The retired police office did not call CPS to report neglect.
difficult child told several teachers AND the school guidance counselor that she had been thrown out - yet none of them made a call to CPS.
And we already know that neither the behavior person, her supervisor, Idiot Caseworker nor Caseworker's supervisor made a report...
Aren't all these folks mandated reporters? Shouldn't CPS have been at our door on Thursday?
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And one more thing I found: this action by us was *supposed* to trigger an emergency response from Idiot Caseworker. difficult child was supposed to have been immediately placed into a Therapeutic Foster Home and then a counseling session set up so the family could all sit down and discuss the situation after a suitable "cooling off" period...
But instead - here we are....still in the Twilight Zone.
difficult child finally responded this afternoon with a series of threats about how she was going to call the police on us and if we expected to have her come back, we were going to have to get a few things straightened out. (Her words)
Then, we get a call from the father of the guy difficult child is staying with. Turns out the man is a retired police officer. Threatened husband. Told him if he didn't allow difficult child back home right now - he was pressing charges and husband was going to be facing serious jail time.
husband told him to go right ahead.
The man was not prepared for this response. He and husband talked for a few minutes....and then husband invited him over to discuss things.
I had been going through my paperwork to copy a few things for DammitJanet - so I left my files on the kitchen table. The man (H) and his wife (A) seemed like very nice people who had been given a horror story about our abusive nature. They were actually afraid to come into our house! So H approached the door first, and when he decided we were not luring him in to kill him, he signaled for his wife to join us...
So we sat down over coffee and went through some of my files.
H and A were stunned! They then revealed a few things they had noticed about difficult child, and you could see the puzzle pieces clicking into place for them. Now all this time, they had left difficult child sitting out in their car. Apparantly, the original plan was for H to intimidate the heck out of us...and then send difficult child inside.
Instead, A went out to get her purse, because she suddenly did not feel safe leaving her valuables in the car alone with difficult child.
After a while, difficult child was invited in to join the conversation and OH was she upset! This had NOT gone the way she planned at all!
DJ told her she could come home if she followed house rules, closed her new fb account and turned in her cell phone. H and A encouraged her that this was the right thing to do.
But it was so obvious that difficult child was upset. The four adults ended up telling her that ultimately, the choice to come home and comply was up to her. difficult child decided she could not come home right now because her deoderant was at H and A's house... And H and A decided to accept this because they had originally told difficult child that she was welcome to spend the whole weekend, and they did not want to make her any more upset.
So they took her home with them tonight - with plans to get her to church first thing in the morning.
I almost feel bad for these nice people who just thought they were helping a "poor kid"...
*******
And figure this one out:
The retired police office did not call CPS to report neglect.
difficult child told several teachers AND the school guidance counselor that she had been thrown out - yet none of them made a call to CPS.
And we already know that neither the behavior person, her supervisor, Idiot Caseworker nor Caseworker's supervisor made a report...
Aren't all these folks mandated reporters? Shouldn't CPS have been at our door on Thursday?
***************
And one more thing I found: this action by us was *supposed* to trigger an emergency response from Idiot Caseworker. difficult child was supposed to have been immediately placed into a Therapeutic Foster Home and then a counseling session set up so the family could all sit down and discuss the situation after a suitable "cooling off" period...
But instead - here we are....still in the Twilight Zone.