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Interesting proposition from husband...not sure what to think.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 334568" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Given the fear factor you need to tell him that you love him for offering but really feel that you need to do this on your own. Even if "this" is finding a different trainer. I am sure you know that "training" a horse using punishment and fear is simply stupid. It ruins the horse, or at least damages it to the point that it can take YEARS of work to earn its' trust again. If you let husband use fear to train your horse, the animal will NEVER trust you again. There is NO way to get an animal to the "next" level if he is scared.</p><p></p><p>I would be willing to bet that husband will either totally stop family interaction or give up on whatever few chores he does now. Or else will promise to train the horse and not get around to it. But if you ask him to do anything he will be "overburdened" because you already expect him to train your horse. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>You have seen this pattern from him before, haven't you? How did it end up then? Would it be different now? Why and Why not?</p><p></p><p>I would feel very uneasy about this. I wonder if HE saw your list and is scared?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 334568, member: 1233"] Given the fear factor you need to tell him that you love him for offering but really feel that you need to do this on your own. Even if "this" is finding a different trainer. I am sure you know that "training" a horse using punishment and fear is simply stupid. It ruins the horse, or at least damages it to the point that it can take YEARS of work to earn its' trust again. If you let husband use fear to train your horse, the animal will NEVER trust you again. There is NO way to get an animal to the "next" level if he is scared. I would be willing to bet that husband will either totally stop family interaction or give up on whatever few chores he does now. Or else will promise to train the horse and not get around to it. But if you ask him to do anything he will be "overburdened" because you already expect him to train your horse. Know what I mean?? You have seen this pattern from him before, haven't you? How did it end up then? Would it be different now? Why and Why not? I would feel very uneasy about this. I wonder if HE saw your list and is scared? [/QUOTE]
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