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<blockquote data-quote="greenrene" data-source="post: 572826" data-attributes="member: 9177"><p>OMG! That whole "you always seem angry at difficult child" is EXACTLY what I hear too! That's precisely because, with difficult child, you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop, even when she's being good. She can go from sweet to totally obnoxious in a millisecond. She is VERY sneaky, manipulative, and has no qualms whatsoever about lying to anyone's face. She can say things that are very inappropriate, and she can be downright unbelievably ANNOYING, not to mention flat-out mean. So yeah, I'm ALWAYS on guard. I learned a long time ago that I HAVE to be, especially to protect my older son, who is her second favorite target/scapegoat (her favorite one is me).</p><p></p><p>I'm also tired of hearing about how I treat my sons differently than I treat her. DUH - they're different kids. They are MY KIDS. They don't have behavior issues at all. Of course it's going to look like I'm mostly always mad at difficult child - she really is THAT high-maintenance. All 4 of my sister in law's kids put together have NOTHING on difficult child.</p><p></p><p>aeroeng, thank you for your post - that's kind of what we're dealing with. brother in law and sister in law are very strict and very structured. husband and I are very laid-back. We do have rules, but nowhere near as strict as them. I like how you put it as having different skills rather than deficient skills. I need to look at it that way and stop feeling guilty and like a failure.</p><p></p><p>husband and I haven't even talked about this whole mess at all yet. I really wonder if he's going to be willing to go for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="greenrene, post: 572826, member: 9177"] OMG! That whole "you always seem angry at difficult child" is EXACTLY what I hear too! That's precisely because, with difficult child, you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop, even when she's being good. She can go from sweet to totally obnoxious in a millisecond. She is VERY sneaky, manipulative, and has no qualms whatsoever about lying to anyone's face. She can say things that are very inappropriate, and she can be downright unbelievably ANNOYING, not to mention flat-out mean. So yeah, I'm ALWAYS on guard. I learned a long time ago that I HAVE to be, especially to protect my older son, who is her second favorite target/scapegoat (her favorite one is me). I'm also tired of hearing about how I treat my sons differently than I treat her. DUH - they're different kids. They are MY KIDS. They don't have behavior issues at all. Of course it's going to look like I'm mostly always mad at difficult child - she really is THAT high-maintenance. All 4 of my sister in law's kids put together have NOTHING on difficult child. aeroeng, thank you for your post - that's kind of what we're dealing with. brother in law and sister in law are very strict and very structured. husband and I are very laid-back. We do have rules, but nowhere near as strict as them. I like how you put it as having different skills rather than deficient skills. I need to look at it that way and stop feeling guilty and like a failure. husband and I haven't even talked about this whole mess at all yet. I really wonder if he's going to be willing to go for it. [/QUOTE]
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