I am new to the group and I have a 6yr old that is ADHD/ODD. I have just spent yet another night battling with him, followed by the usual pity party of crying in my bed after he falls asleep, wondering where I've gone wrong. He has allways been independant, defiant and willing to say things that are hurtful. I have bought several books on dealing with his increasingly hostile, difficult behaviors but I always feel at such a loss and often wish someone would just take him for a while. He was suspended from school twice during his kindergarten yr and was home on friday for his first suspension from 1st grade for punching another student. He has punched, kicked and spit at other kids. I have two other boys and the 2 yr old is starting to mimic everything he does. Tonight difficult child yelled at me that I was stupid and the "F" word because I had turned off his video game to do homework (which I had warned him several times was going to happen and had given clear time limits for) As he was yelling, my 2 yr old turned to me and said "Mommy stupid". My 2 yr old will also throw things, hit and yell in copy cat form of the 6 yr old. I am so scared of what it is doing to my younger two to see me and Cay yelling and me having to often physically restrain Cay or have to physically put him in timeouts. I had to call the county youth behavior center on Thursday and they sent a mobile response unit to talk to him and me about what our options for therapy are now that I have lost my job and health care. I applied for state health care, still waiting though. So right now I want to know what you do when the child is in a fit of rage and yelling profanity/hurtful words, throwing things and refusing to comply with any instructions? What if you have 2 other children watching? I am so tired and lost and hurt. I feel like a horrible mom and every night I think over what happened, wonder what I should/could have done differently, tell myself "tomorrow is a new day" and yet I know tomorrow will be the same.