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<blockquote data-quote="apesfordana" data-source="post: 557574" data-attributes="member: 13077"><p>Getting babies & children to move away from old stuff & adapt new things & change.... </p><p></p><p>wow, that question made me think of my son's first pair of new shoes after he grew out of is very very VERY favorite shoes. He cried and screamed and refused to try on new shoes. He would have trashed the store with his fit if I let him... It was quite an ordeal to be able to walk out of the store with something - but it had to be done. </p><p></p><p>So what do I think is a good idea of getting them to move on - I think you pick your battles & makes sure they can find the positive in changing. I don't make my boy get rid of his pillow. Like I said, we've bought him new pillows - he refuses to use anything but his original pillow. Oh well. It's more important that his bed is a safe and comfortable place for him. He also still sleeps with a blanket that was on his toddler bed by the way... </p><p></p><p>But he grew out of those shoes - He couldn't hold on to those forever. So He had to get through that. It was tough, but he got to learn that he can love the next pair too. And the next pair is more comfortable. And people compliment him on how cool he looked - 'oh yeahhhh' . Learning that tough lesson helped him get through the next one a little better. The key was preparing him for the change, explaining the benefits, listening to his side - if he can express it properly, being patient, giving him options - when possible, and providing positive reenforcement before, during & ongoing.</p><p></p><p>And when you have a child that takes change even harder than 'normal' kids that already have a tough time - you have be more patient but also more diligent. 'Normal' kids will often suck it up & push through. Other kids whose entire world is turned over when the smallest thing is out of place... well, they still have to experience change. They still have to learn ways to adapt. And parents have to champion those efforts and work through the melt downs and tentrums. </p><p></p><p>The only thing you can count on in life is that things change. The earlier you start teaching and nurturing that, the better for your child... and YOU! But with that, sometimes its OK to hang on to something or someone a little too tight or a little too long - expecially if it helps you with the rest</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="apesfordana, post: 557574, member: 13077"] Getting babies & children to move away from old stuff & adapt new things & change.... wow, that question made me think of my son's first pair of new shoes after he grew out of is very very VERY favorite shoes. He cried and screamed and refused to try on new shoes. He would have trashed the store with his fit if I let him... It was quite an ordeal to be able to walk out of the store with something - but it had to be done. So what do I think is a good idea of getting them to move on - I think you pick your battles & makes sure they can find the positive in changing. I don't make my boy get rid of his pillow. Like I said, we've bought him new pillows - he refuses to use anything but his original pillow. Oh well. It's more important that his bed is a safe and comfortable place for him. He also still sleeps with a blanket that was on his toddler bed by the way... But he grew out of those shoes - He couldn't hold on to those forever. So He had to get through that. It was tough, but he got to learn that he can love the next pair too. And the next pair is more comfortable. And people compliment him on how cool he looked - 'oh yeahhhh' . Learning that tough lesson helped him get through the next one a little better. The key was preparing him for the change, explaining the benefits, listening to his side - if he can express it properly, being patient, giving him options - when possible, and providing positive reenforcement before, during & ongoing. And when you have a child that takes change even harder than 'normal' kids that already have a tough time - you have be more patient but also more diligent. 'Normal' kids will often suck it up & push through. Other kids whose entire world is turned over when the smallest thing is out of place... well, they still have to experience change. They still have to learn ways to adapt. And parents have to champion those efforts and work through the melt downs and tentrums. The only thing you can count on in life is that things change. The earlier you start teaching and nurturing that, the better for your child... and YOU! But with that, sometimes its OK to hang on to something or someone a little too tight or a little too long - expecially if it helps you with the rest [/QUOTE]
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