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<blockquote data-quote="'Chelle" data-source="post: 207024" data-attributes="member: 1161"><p>Hi misskrystal. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> Our difficult child didn't get a diagnosis right away either and we got a lot of it could be this, it could be that, until I finally said what we're doing isn't working and got a good re-evaluation. Don't know who your daughter has seen, but I think you should get her the most thorough evaluation you can, a multidisciplinary evaluation. or a neuropsychologist. I think the FAQ forum has some explanation of these. As someone suggested, check with the nearest childrens hospital. Even if they don't offer them, they may be able to steer you to somewhere they do. I just went along trying to cope for 3 years, and when we got the right diagnosis, it helped so much to get proper therapies and accomodations in place that changed my difficult child around.</p><p></p><p>I too read The Explosive Child, and used from it what I thought would work for me, and it did help in learning to communicate with my difficult child. And to learn how to decide what battles were important and which I should let go for now. One thing I've learned is to validate what he's saying/feeling. When he says "I don't want to go to school" I try and start my reply with something like I understand you don't want to because...and give reasons showing I know why he hates it....and then end with the but you have to go because legally you have to. I used to just do the well so, you have to go, and that was the end of it. That's gone a long way in keeping him calmer when he's serious about not wanting to go to school that day, and lately I find that he says it in a half joking way just to let me know he still doesn't like school.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the site <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/flower.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":flower:" title="flower :flower:" data-shortname=":flower:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /> Hope you find the advise and shoulder you need to help through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="'Chelle, post: 207024, member: 1161"] Hi misskrystal. :happy: Our difficult child didn't get a diagnosis right away either and we got a lot of it could be this, it could be that, until I finally said what we're doing isn't working and got a good re-evaluation. Don't know who your daughter has seen, but I think you should get her the most thorough evaluation you can, a multidisciplinary evaluation. or a neuropsychologist. I think the FAQ forum has some explanation of these. As someone suggested, check with the nearest childrens hospital. Even if they don't offer them, they may be able to steer you to somewhere they do. I just went along trying to cope for 3 years, and when we got the right diagnosis, it helped so much to get proper therapies and accomodations in place that changed my difficult child around. I too read The Explosive Child, and used from it what I thought would work for me, and it did help in learning to communicate with my difficult child. And to learn how to decide what battles were important and which I should let go for now. One thing I've learned is to validate what he's saying/feeling. When he says "I don't want to go to school" I try and start my reply with something like I understand you don't want to because...and give reasons showing I know why he hates it....and then end with the but you have to go because legally you have to. I used to just do the well so, you have to go, and that was the end of it. That's gone a long way in keeping him calmer when he's serious about not wanting to go to school that day, and lately I find that he says it in a half joking way just to let me know he still doesn't like school. Welcome to the site :flower::bigsmile: Hope you find the advise and shoulder you need to help through. [/QUOTE]
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