stuckinamess
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I believe I have posted here before. It was quite awhile ago. However, I am not able to find any of my old posts.
Since she was born she has always been strong willed and irritable to say the least. She was the type of kid that would scream in the car for hours straight. Never cry herself to sleep, you would think she was being tortured. As a toddler, it would take my husband and I hours to get her dressed. She would strip everything off as soon as we got it on her. At 2.5 she would throw toys at her older sister. My now 8 year old has scars on her chest from dd5 biting and scratching her.
Below is something I wrote about her earlier today.
Everyone outside of immediate family describes her as the sweetest most loving little girl. She is quiet, obedient, loves to give hugs and cuddle. At home she is impossible to live with.
The last month or so things have gotten so bad that we have almost taken her to the emergency behavior health place here. She is turning extremely violent. THrowing things at us, hitting, kicking biting. It's hard to even go anywhere with her in the car because if she gets in one of her "moods" she will throw everything she can at us. Yes, while driving, she is throwing things at me. I have had to stop. Had to put dd8 in the front seat with me because her sister will attack her in the back seat. We can't keep her to keep her seatbelt on. Had to put the child locks back on the door because she would keep opening the door. SHe screams at us all the time about how much she hates us and we are mean and evil and she wishes we would just leave and never come back.
SHe hates going to school, even though she is perfect when she gets there and says she likes it. The teachers have had to help me twice already to get her into the school. This past week a teacher put her arm around her to try to get her to go in and she started pushing and hitting at her.
Spanking doesn't help, it just makes her angrier and the behavior gets worse. She turned 5 in July, weighs 60 pounds so I can barely lift her anymore so getting her to time out or to stay there when she is there is next to impossible. Oh yeah, a month or so ago, she pointed out "mommy, I have hair on my privates". Yup, that's right. Took her to the dr. he says it's not unusual. Maybe not, but with all the behavior problems, maybe there is more going on. NOpe, don't worry about it. SHe will be fine.
I HATE being around her when she gets like this. I try so hard to reinforce the good behavior when she isn't in one of these moods. It's just so hard and draining. My dd8 is crying all the time because of it. She is scared of her. WHen dd5 is in a good mood, she is helpful, loving and sweet. It's also taking it's toll on my marriage, which I'm sure she senses.
We go to a child psychologist tomorrow. Hopefully we can start getting some answers.
I should mention that I am high school Special Education. teacher. I am working on my masters in Sped. My caseload consists of students with EBD. One would think I could deal with this. Actually, going to work every day and being with my students is like a vacation from home. I hate that feeling.
Any suggestions on what to bring up to the Psychologist tom.? How do I prevent him, like most dr.'s have said from saying it's just a stage, she will grow out of it. At what point is it no longer a stage?
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Since she was born she has always been strong willed and irritable to say the least. She was the type of kid that would scream in the car for hours straight. Never cry herself to sleep, you would think she was being tortured. As a toddler, it would take my husband and I hours to get her dressed. She would strip everything off as soon as we got it on her. At 2.5 she would throw toys at her older sister. My now 8 year old has scars on her chest from dd5 biting and scratching her.
Below is something I wrote about her earlier today.
Everyone outside of immediate family describes her as the sweetest most loving little girl. She is quiet, obedient, loves to give hugs and cuddle. At home she is impossible to live with.
The last month or so things have gotten so bad that we have almost taken her to the emergency behavior health place here. She is turning extremely violent. THrowing things at us, hitting, kicking biting. It's hard to even go anywhere with her in the car because if she gets in one of her "moods" she will throw everything she can at us. Yes, while driving, she is throwing things at me. I have had to stop. Had to put dd8 in the front seat with me because her sister will attack her in the back seat. We can't keep her to keep her seatbelt on. Had to put the child locks back on the door because she would keep opening the door. SHe screams at us all the time about how much she hates us and we are mean and evil and she wishes we would just leave and never come back.
SHe hates going to school, even though she is perfect when she gets there and says she likes it. The teachers have had to help me twice already to get her into the school. This past week a teacher put her arm around her to try to get her to go in and she started pushing and hitting at her.
Spanking doesn't help, it just makes her angrier and the behavior gets worse. She turned 5 in July, weighs 60 pounds so I can barely lift her anymore so getting her to time out or to stay there when she is there is next to impossible. Oh yeah, a month or so ago, she pointed out "mommy, I have hair on my privates". Yup, that's right. Took her to the dr. he says it's not unusual. Maybe not, but with all the behavior problems, maybe there is more going on. NOpe, don't worry about it. SHe will be fine.
I HATE being around her when she gets like this. I try so hard to reinforce the good behavior when she isn't in one of these moods. It's just so hard and draining. My dd8 is crying all the time because of it. She is scared of her. WHen dd5 is in a good mood, she is helpful, loving and sweet. It's also taking it's toll on my marriage, which I'm sure she senses.
We go to a child psychologist tomorrow. Hopefully we can start getting some answers.
I should mention that I am high school Special Education. teacher. I am working on my masters in Sped. My caseload consists of students with EBD. One would think I could deal with this. Actually, going to work every day and being with my students is like a vacation from home. I hate that feeling.
Any suggestions on what to bring up to the Psychologist tom.? How do I prevent him, like most dr.'s have said from saying it's just a stage, she will grow out of it. At what point is it no longer a stage?
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