techteacher
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Ok.. I'm new here, so not year familiar with all the terminology or abbreviations. I'll start off by saying I'm the mother to a 5 year old with moderate physical disabilities and a umm high needs 3 yr old. My 3 yr old, who just turned 3 last week has been a challenge from birth. As a newborn he had colic. He was intolerant to my breast milk, even after eliminating milk & other things from my diet, and several types of milk. Eventually we'd moved to hydroslate formula and thought things were better. He was sleeping 1 hr stretches at 4 months old instead of 30 min stretches at a time, but was having constant ear infections. After bringing him to the pediatrician over and over at 15 months she referred us to an ENT and on his 2nd birthday he had tubes placed bilaterally. The ear infections stopped. Developmentally he had hit all milestones early if not on time, other than verbal. He was delayed in his speech and entered into our states Early Intervention program at almost 2 years. He received speech therapy 1x/month as well as an Early Inverntionalist who worked with him on developmental skills 1x/week. Which I know is not excessive as my other child has Occupational Therapist (OT), PT, and ST once a week, but he was responding well. He began to blast off in his speech skills after the tubes were placed. And by 2.5 was no longer delayed. But around the same time I requested a behavior evaluation by our Early Intervention agency. I was told that the results of the tests did not show any behavioral disorder and that the other thing the administrator was concerned about was that he was overly shy and did not warm up to them. So basically I felt like I was told I was crazy and sent on my way. The issues that caused me to request this evaulation were constant tantruming. I had never been a spanking parent and always believed in time out, but for this child time out meant that you had to physically hold him in the place you wanted him to time out in. And that he was tantruming & screaming like a wild animal the entire time. No lesson was learned. No thought given to the action, actually not thought was given to anything but punching hitting and screaming to get free from the time out situation. He has never been a good sleeper and doesn't sleep more than 3 or 4 hrs at night but seems to wake refreshed and ready to take on the day every day. He constantly pushing and fights with his older brother, which is about his size currently. and he will stand in my face and scream at the top of his lungs "NO I'M NOT DOING THAT!!! YOU DO IT!!" when asked nicely to pick up toys or eat his food. As a baby he was slightly overweight and ate everything. But since about 2 yrs old he has become extremely picky and will scream fight and hurt himself to get out of the dinner situation. Anyhow I had him evaluated by the school district prior to his 3rd birthday and was told that other than extreme shy-ness and power struggles with mom there was no behavioral issues. I really don't know where to turn from here. I feel like where ever I take him for evaluation I am told just to try to beef up my parenting skills or just accept him is high needs. I have recently been doing a lot of research and he seems to him the ODD criteria and I guess I'm going to start with the psychiatrist at the local children's hospital. Just wanted to test the water and see how other parents have dealt with this situation.
Mom to 2 beautiful boys
DS#1 5yrs old with physical disabilities
DS#2- 3yrs old about to start preschool
Mom to 2 beautiful boys
DS#1 5yrs old with physical disabilities
DS#2- 3yrs old about to start preschool
