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<blockquote data-quote="Lioness" data-source="post: 651780" data-attributes="member: 18827"><p>Oh MJ, I do feel for you. My eldest daughter was impossible from aged 12 onwards when her father left after having an affair. She was his princess and he neglected her in every way once he left. She reacted badly and behaved much like your daughter. She was never cruel to animals, but loved animals more than humans. She hated me. Swore at me, hit me, smashed up my bedroom. She once even threw me through a glass table. She always lied, and boasted that she could cry on cue, which she can. She would steal money, clothes, watch and even my car keys once. I am ashamed to say that she took up so much of my time, that my other two children who were very well behaved were always last in line as she took up so much of my time. I tried to get her a psychologist, but she would refuse to go. I didn't have enough money to get someone to come to us. She blamed me for her father leaving, and saw everything as black or white with no gray area. I was bad her father was good. As the years have gone on, we got on a bit better very superficially. Once she had a baby she was much kinder towards me and my heart soared as I thought maybe now she understood what it was like to be a mother. Recently she has regressed back to lying, being nasty to me, and using the baby in her game playing. She blows hot and cold, uses me when she needs a baby sitter. I realise now that she has border line personality disorder, and wish I knew this at a younger age and insisted on getting her help. She is now an adult, and it is out of my hands. I still suffer today at her hands, and slowly I am trying to pull back and save something for myself. At present I am going into a downward spiral as she carries on with her recent drama queen tactics. She plays a great victim. Please try very hard to get your daughter help NOW. Your younger daughter needs you, somehow you must make time to take her out of the situation. i.e. Take her out on her own, even if its for an ice cream cone. Spend time with her, having fun. She may be a good girl and not complain, but she needs you too. Thank the Lord for the gift of your younger daughter. I did this at times with my other two, tried really hard to do things on my own with them as the eldest daughter was so draining on the family. Sundays, were the worst days of the week as I found that was the day she was particularly bored and would create trouble for the sake of it. I wish you love and luck, stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lioness, post: 651780, member: 18827"] Oh MJ, I do feel for you. My eldest daughter was impossible from aged 12 onwards when her father left after having an affair. She was his princess and he neglected her in every way once he left. She reacted badly and behaved much like your daughter. She was never cruel to animals, but loved animals more than humans. She hated me. Swore at me, hit me, smashed up my bedroom. She once even threw me through a glass table. She always lied, and boasted that she could cry on cue, which she can. She would steal money, clothes, watch and even my car keys once. I am ashamed to say that she took up so much of my time, that my other two children who were very well behaved were always last in line as she took up so much of my time. I tried to get her a psychologist, but she would refuse to go. I didn't have enough money to get someone to come to us. She blamed me for her father leaving, and saw everything as black or white with no gray area. I was bad her father was good. As the years have gone on, we got on a bit better very superficially. Once she had a baby she was much kinder towards me and my heart soared as I thought maybe now she understood what it was like to be a mother. Recently she has regressed back to lying, being nasty to me, and using the baby in her game playing. She blows hot and cold, uses me when she needs a baby sitter. I realise now that she has border line personality disorder, and wish I knew this at a younger age and insisted on getting her help. She is now an adult, and it is out of my hands. I still suffer today at her hands, and slowly I am trying to pull back and save something for myself. At present I am going into a downward spiral as she carries on with her recent drama queen tactics. She plays a great victim. Please try very hard to get your daughter help NOW. Your younger daughter needs you, somehow you must make time to take her out of the situation. i.e. Take her out on her own, even if its for an ice cream cone. Spend time with her, having fun. She may be a good girl and not complain, but she needs you too. Thank the Lord for the gift of your younger daughter. I did this at times with my other two, tried really hard to do things on my own with them as the eldest daughter was so draining on the family. Sundays, were the worst days of the week as I found that was the day she was particularly bored and would create trouble for the sake of it. I wish you love and luck, stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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