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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 463953" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board Buddy! I'm so glad you found us. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Sounds like you have an amazing school district, and if I were you I'd plan on never moving away. (seriously) You boy sounds very much like my Travis, and no schools just seem to have a much tougher time grasping the whole brain injury thing. Ours never did, it didn't so hot with the autism either. Actually, ours were so bad they came to hate the sight of me. But from changes I've seen made due to my grandson being very similar to his uncle, well, I hope my constant nagging and pushing helped get them on the ball. </p><p></p><p>I stopped pushing Travis into social situations at around age 8. At the time I didn't realize I was "pushing", I thought I was encouraging. Somewhere along the line it occurred to me he has to do the social thing at his own pace and in whatever way is most comfortable for him. I still encourage, but I don't push anymore. Travis has other issues that make sports ect difficult, and they were far too stimulating so after one year of soccer, sports were dropped. </p><p></p><p>I used to worry over the job thing, the adult version thing terribly. Travis was so far behind his peers, and as they all grew older, the distance became greater. His brain injury only complicates everything else. And it's harder for people to grasp, unlike the vision, because you can't look at him and see it. </p><p></p><p>Routine and consistency were a vital must in his life. The other kids benefited greatly from it as well. As adults, 2 of my girls use the same routine/consistency with their kids. </p><p></p><p>The teen years in some respects were very hard. High school was a nightmare, changing classes, different teachers expecting different things ect....until we got him into a technical school in his junior year that did both the high school classes and taught him his passion, computers. That was the first time his IEPs were actually followed correctly, where they actually practiced with all the kids social skills once a week, doing job interviews ect. Great school. He did a ton of growing there, made his first real friends. </p><p></p><p>We worried Travis wouldn't graduate, yet he managed it on the honor roll. We really never saw him going to college. He was late getting there but he's in his 3rd year. Managed to go off to a 4 yr college the first year and live in the handicap dorm with 4 other students. (they pair them 2 able bodied with 2 disabled) and managed himself just fine. Since it was too expensive, he's returned home and is now attending community college. He's worked 2 full time jobs, much to our amazement. Yet that is more difficult for him, to the point where we're now doing the disability in case he can't manage to maintain a job for a long period of time. He's still behind his peers. At age 16 he was still hovering between 8-11 yrs old, some behaviors much younger. At 25, I'd say he's nearer 18-19. </p><p></p><p>It was a long hard road. I'd spent his whole life working to make him independent. We still don't know if that will happen. But at this point, it's ok. He has long since exceeded anyone's expectations. And he is who he is, and we like him that way. So you have every reason to hope for a bright future for your difficult child. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 463953, member: 84"] Welcome to the board Buddy! I'm so glad you found us. :) Sounds like you have an amazing school district, and if I were you I'd plan on never moving away. (seriously) You boy sounds very much like my Travis, and no schools just seem to have a much tougher time grasping the whole brain injury thing. Ours never did, it didn't so hot with the autism either. Actually, ours were so bad they came to hate the sight of me. But from changes I've seen made due to my grandson being very similar to his uncle, well, I hope my constant nagging and pushing helped get them on the ball. I stopped pushing Travis into social situations at around age 8. At the time I didn't realize I was "pushing", I thought I was encouraging. Somewhere along the line it occurred to me he has to do the social thing at his own pace and in whatever way is most comfortable for him. I still encourage, but I don't push anymore. Travis has other issues that make sports ect difficult, and they were far too stimulating so after one year of soccer, sports were dropped. I used to worry over the job thing, the adult version thing terribly. Travis was so far behind his peers, and as they all grew older, the distance became greater. His brain injury only complicates everything else. And it's harder for people to grasp, unlike the vision, because you can't look at him and see it. Routine and consistency were a vital must in his life. The other kids benefited greatly from it as well. As adults, 2 of my girls use the same routine/consistency with their kids. The teen years in some respects were very hard. High school was a nightmare, changing classes, different teachers expecting different things ect....until we got him into a technical school in his junior year that did both the high school classes and taught him his passion, computers. That was the first time his IEPs were actually followed correctly, where they actually practiced with all the kids social skills once a week, doing job interviews ect. Great school. He did a ton of growing there, made his first real friends. We worried Travis wouldn't graduate, yet he managed it on the honor roll. We really never saw him going to college. He was late getting there but he's in his 3rd year. Managed to go off to a 4 yr college the first year and live in the handicap dorm with 4 other students. (they pair them 2 able bodied with 2 disabled) and managed himself just fine. Since it was too expensive, he's returned home and is now attending community college. He's worked 2 full time jobs, much to our amazement. Yet that is more difficult for him, to the point where we're now doing the disability in case he can't manage to maintain a job for a long period of time. He's still behind his peers. At age 16 he was still hovering between 8-11 yrs old, some behaviors much younger. At 25, I'd say he's nearer 18-19. It was a long hard road. I'd spent his whole life working to make him independent. We still don't know if that will happen. But at this point, it's ok. He has long since exceeded anyone's expectations. And he is who he is, and we like him that way. So you have every reason to hope for a bright future for your difficult child. :) Hugs [/QUOTE]
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