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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 463977" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Wow thanks everyone. Lisa that is encouraging. I think I have been doing the opposite for my son, just learned to avoid letting him do t hings with peers because it always ended in an incident. Even his cousins tattle on him constantly and they know his issues. It is hard for them not to take his comments personally especaially when they can be so mean sounding at times. So, with more kids moving into our complex this year he just begged and we met a family who had special needs children and really helped him while at our pool. That grew into more kids playing with him. For the first time, I actually told several of them and a couple just came and asked me (it is pretty obvious once they talk to him, or rather he constantly talks to them) that he has autism/special needs. This actually made a huge difference and though I was torn for his sake (he doesn't like his labels lately) they are continuuing to ask him to play with him, even after the horrible weekend. The first kid who asked to play with him was the one who got a fat lip from him. He has to be supervised 24/7 but I can do it by being close by and sometimes it is not me, it is the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers. He doesn't listen as well to them though. Rules and strategies are just too hard for him and physical games make it so he doesn't have access to the little self control he does have. He wants to be with the other kids so very badly. I am trying to stick to pacing him for his sake, but it is so hard when I see he has a chance at friends which had never happened before. I also risk the wrath of difficult child if I say no...THAT is something he has never liked to hear, so this sometimes saying okay just doesn't work well. It is the first time I can't make a rule....you can't play with any of them or you can play with all of them. I am trying to say we have to limit to 2-3 (but additional kids join in after they start) and only specific activities...bikes, swimming, etc. Things that dont involve his making strategy errors that make other kids mad. I am happy he wants to try but am so sad at how frequently it does not work out. And when kids end up hurt we face the chance that parents will involve the law etc. which is very scary since we have a good program with many agencies involved and dont need anything like that mucking it up. I love that your son is in school and doing well. I know mine will find a place and if not we will create one.</p><p>Thanks, </p><p>ps got the signature to work!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 463977, member: 12886"] Wow thanks everyone. Lisa that is encouraging. I think I have been doing the opposite for my son, just learned to avoid letting him do t hings with peers because it always ended in an incident. Even his cousins tattle on him constantly and they know his issues. It is hard for them not to take his comments personally especaially when they can be so mean sounding at times. So, with more kids moving into our complex this year he just begged and we met a family who had special needs children and really helped him while at our pool. That grew into more kids playing with him. For the first time, I actually told several of them and a couple just came and asked me (it is pretty obvious once they talk to him, or rather he constantly talks to them) that he has autism/special needs. This actually made a huge difference and though I was torn for his sake (he doesn't like his labels lately) they are continuuing to ask him to play with him, even after the horrible weekend. The first kid who asked to play with him was the one who got a fat lip from him. He has to be supervised 24/7 but I can do it by being close by and sometimes it is not me, it is the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers. He doesn't listen as well to them though. Rules and strategies are just too hard for him and physical games make it so he doesn't have access to the little self control he does have. He wants to be with the other kids so very badly. I am trying to stick to pacing him for his sake, but it is so hard when I see he has a chance at friends which had never happened before. I also risk the wrath of difficult child if I say no...THAT is something he has never liked to hear, so this sometimes saying okay just doesn't work well. It is the first time I can't make a rule....you can't play with any of them or you can play with all of them. I am trying to say we have to limit to 2-3 (but additional kids join in after they start) and only specific activities...bikes, swimming, etc. Things that dont involve his making strategy errors that make other kids mad. I am happy he wants to try but am so sad at how frequently it does not work out. And when kids end up hurt we face the chance that parents will involve the law etc. which is very scary since we have a good program with many agencies involved and dont need anything like that mucking it up. I love that your son is in school and doing well. I know mine will find a place and if not we will create one. Thanks, ps got the signature to work! [/QUOTE]
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