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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 261136" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>It was my choice to leave my job in 2001 and become a full time mom, Angel then 6yo was in the psychiatric hospital and they said "single mom, 3 kids, works full time" and started looking for a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement for Angel. I did not bring this beautiful person into the world so she could grow up anywhere that I wasn't, so I quit my job. Didn't have a clue how we were going to survive but I figured as long as the family stayed together we would make it somehow and we did. Not to say that the girls both qualifying for SSI didn't help because it did. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I'm all alone with 3 of them so I learned to swallow my pride and accept any help that is offered a long time ago.</p><p></p><p>No that wasn't a book - actually the book I'm writing is already over a thousand pages and I still got a few years to go before Ms.12 turns 18; maybe I'll turn it into a chronicles of motherhood type series. I got to do something with it because its gonna make "Gone with the Wind" look like a little comic book. I can't see many reading a book you could get a hernia picking it up. I read Gone with the Wind by the way; it took me 3 whole days (when I was 10 years old). My mom use to get "those" calls from school about me too but I wasn't acting up - it was stuff like I was reading "The Sting" in 2nd grade and counting the swear words while I was reading it. </p><p></p><p>Childhood was kind of a frustrating experience for me because my mind was going too fast and too many directions at the same time; add to that all the sensory issues I had going on - even my mother couldn't keep up her end of a conversation with me most days. She often would get mad because she would say the bible said something and I would interrupt her with something along the lines of "actually it says..." then pull it out and show her where it said whatever. It had to have been very hard on my mom having a kid correcting her.</p><p></p><p>I sometimes wonder if they had given me some medications so I could sleep at night, maybe I would be a rocket scientist or a brain surgeon now? Out of boredom I kind of majored in partying when in high school, still graduated with a 3.8 but believe I could have gone a lot further in life if I had taken a different path. They would have probably put me on Ritalin - don't get me wrong it helped my 24yo tremendously but for Angel it caused a downward spiral (maybe change that to upward?) anyway she turned into a little tornado on stimulants. I can relate to Angel so well because if you remove the psychosis part she's like a mini me.</p><p></p><p>The county doesn't send therapist's to the IEP's - I invite them and they get like a little gold star in their employment folder for attending, so everyone wins. It sure gives them lots of insight into what's going on with the kids on their caseload. If you give people half a chance they will surprise you. Last year at Angel's IEP I thought I was going to have a problem out of school because I had written an information page and a couple of social skills goals for Angel. They were so thrilled with what I had written they copied the info page and its now page 3 of her IEP (wish I'de known I would have typed it LOL). They were also happy I had done the "work" of putting social skills into measurable goals and they wrote those in too.</p><p></p><p>As far as the schools go they have been really good to work with me, I worked as an advocate 2002-2006 and several times Angel's teacher has called me to ask where to find info on a subject to try to get something for one of her students. I've thrown a couple of idea's out at IEP meetings that teacher has jumped on because it could be a break thru for another kid. Example - 1/4 inch graph paper for a kid who's writing is all over the place; it gives them boundaries for each letter and helps with spacing too.</p><p></p><p>I guess I should save that stuff for the education 101 forum here, because I have a lot of little advocacy tricks and stories that I think many here would enjoy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 261136, member: 7170"] It was my choice to leave my job in 2001 and become a full time mom, Angel then 6yo was in the psychiatric hospital and they said "single mom, 3 kids, works full time" and started looking for a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement for Angel. I did not bring this beautiful person into the world so she could grow up anywhere that I wasn't, so I quit my job. Didn't have a clue how we were going to survive but I figured as long as the family stayed together we would make it somehow and we did. Not to say that the girls both qualifying for SSI didn't help because it did. They say it takes a village to raise a child and I'm all alone with 3 of them so I learned to swallow my pride and accept any help that is offered a long time ago. No that wasn't a book - actually the book I'm writing is already over a thousand pages and I still got a few years to go before Ms.12 turns 18; maybe I'll turn it into a chronicles of motherhood type series. I got to do something with it because its gonna make "Gone with the Wind" look like a little comic book. I can't see many reading a book you could get a hernia picking it up. I read Gone with the Wind by the way; it took me 3 whole days (when I was 10 years old). My mom use to get "those" calls from school about me too but I wasn't acting up - it was stuff like I was reading "The Sting" in 2nd grade and counting the swear words while I was reading it. Childhood was kind of a frustrating experience for me because my mind was going too fast and too many directions at the same time; add to that all the sensory issues I had going on - even my mother couldn't keep up her end of a conversation with me most days. She often would get mad because she would say the bible said something and I would interrupt her with something along the lines of "actually it says..." then pull it out and show her where it said whatever. It had to have been very hard on my mom having a kid correcting her. I sometimes wonder if they had given me some medications so I could sleep at night, maybe I would be a rocket scientist or a brain surgeon now? Out of boredom I kind of majored in partying when in high school, still graduated with a 3.8 but believe I could have gone a lot further in life if I had taken a different path. They would have probably put me on Ritalin - don't get me wrong it helped my 24yo tremendously but for Angel it caused a downward spiral (maybe change that to upward?) anyway she turned into a little tornado on stimulants. I can relate to Angel so well because if you remove the psychosis part she's like a mini me. The county doesn't send therapist's to the IEP's - I invite them and they get like a little gold star in their employment folder for attending, so everyone wins. It sure gives them lots of insight into what's going on with the kids on their caseload. If you give people half a chance they will surprise you. Last year at Angel's IEP I thought I was going to have a problem out of school because I had written an information page and a couple of social skills goals for Angel. They were so thrilled with what I had written they copied the info page and its now page 3 of her IEP (wish I'de known I would have typed it LOL). They were also happy I had done the "work" of putting social skills into measurable goals and they wrote those in too. As far as the schools go they have been really good to work with me, I worked as an advocate 2002-2006 and several times Angel's teacher has called me to ask where to find info on a subject to try to get something for one of her students. I've thrown a couple of idea's out at IEP meetings that teacher has jumped on because it could be a break thru for another kid. Example - 1/4 inch graph paper for a kid who's writing is all over the place; it gives them boundaries for each letter and helps with spacing too. I guess I should save that stuff for the education 101 forum here, because I have a lot of little advocacy tricks and stories that I think many here would enjoy. [/QUOTE]
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