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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 528659" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Hello Denise - welcome. It sounds to me like you are a very caring daughter and sister who wants to see harmony in your home. </p><p></p><p>I agree with Marg - this has to start with your mother. Not because she is at fault. For one reason, she is older and more mature and for another she is the calmer of the two and would be more easily approached. </p><p></p><p>There is some very good advice here from other posters so I won't repeat it. I would like to encourage you to go to counselling yourself if you can't convince at least your mother to go. I was always the type of person who thought I didn't need counselling - then we started having huge problems with our difficult child. husband and I have only been to 2 counselling sessions - best thing we could have done for ourselves. Getting an outside perspective is amazing and calming and empowering as well. It has made me realize many things. We will continue to go. </p><p></p><p>As a parent, I think the biggest lesson I have learned lately is that my children's behaviour is not a reflection of the job I have done as a mother. That was a huge step for me to realize that if difficult child fails now it is not because I didn't do my job, it is because he has chosen to not use the skills, morals and lessons we have taught him. I wonder if your mom is always reminding or 'nagging' because she doesn't want any of you to fail and suffer the consequences. That's a hard thing to let happen. Parents never want to see their children fail. </p><p></p><p>I wish you well. Come back and ask more questions - the people here are amazing and full of wonderful wisdom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 528659, member: 14356"] Hello Denise - welcome. It sounds to me like you are a very caring daughter and sister who wants to see harmony in your home. I agree with Marg - this has to start with your mother. Not because she is at fault. For one reason, she is older and more mature and for another she is the calmer of the two and would be more easily approached. There is some very good advice here from other posters so I won't repeat it. I would like to encourage you to go to counselling yourself if you can't convince at least your mother to go. I was always the type of person who thought I didn't need counselling - then we started having huge problems with our difficult child. husband and I have only been to 2 counselling sessions - best thing we could have done for ourselves. Getting an outside perspective is amazing and calming and empowering as well. It has made me realize many things. We will continue to go. As a parent, I think the biggest lesson I have learned lately is that my children's behaviour is not a reflection of the job I have done as a mother. That was a huge step for me to realize that if difficult child fails now it is not because I didn't do my job, it is because he has chosen to not use the skills, morals and lessons we have taught him. I wonder if your mom is always reminding or 'nagging' because she doesn't want any of you to fail and suffer the consequences. That's a hard thing to let happen. Parents never want to see their children fail. I wish you well. Come back and ask more questions - the people here are amazing and full of wonderful wisdom. [/QUOTE]
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