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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 311161" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>It sounds like they are trying to use the typical strict behavior modification (rewards and consequences) as the solution. I would not be surprised at all if that did not work and I assume that's why your gut tells you to be leary of it. I would suggest you talking to the principal or some higher-up at the school, filling them in on the anxiety and so forth, then seeing if you can have an informal "conference" with your difficult child. We tried this with my son and it worked miracles. We called it "problem-solving" and the conference was to give my son a chance to discuss what was bugging him. I did this after reading The Explosive Child, so by that point I figured he didn't need another lecture about the importance of going to school- he knew that and that wasn't the problem. Anyway, he expressed a couple of concerns and the proncipal proposed some simple solutions and all started turing around. Mind you- it isn't really the proposed solutions that made a difference- it was difficult child feeling like he was cared about and listened to at school. And, it went a long way in getting the sd staff to change their attitude toward difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 311161, member: 3699"] It sounds like they are trying to use the typical strict behavior modification (rewards and consequences) as the solution. I would not be surprised at all if that did not work and I assume that's why your gut tells you to be leary of it. I would suggest you talking to the principal or some higher-up at the school, filling them in on the anxiety and so forth, then seeing if you can have an informal "conference" with your difficult child. We tried this with my son and it worked miracles. We called it "problem-solving" and the conference was to give my son a chance to discuss what was bugging him. I did this after reading The Explosive Child, so by that point I figured he didn't need another lecture about the importance of going to school- he knew that and that wasn't the problem. Anyway, he expressed a couple of concerns and the proncipal proposed some simple solutions and all started turing around. Mind you- it isn't really the proposed solutions that made a difference- it was difficult child feeling like he was cared about and listened to at school. And, it went a long way in getting the sd staff to change their attitude toward difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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