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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 242651" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Susi* </p><p> </p><p>You know I worked for a man like that for 7 years. I made good money working for him, because...by the time I was hired he had gone through so so many people that demanded raises to stay in his employ and save him the hassle of hiring someone new and hoping they could do the job to his level of perfectionistic need - I walked into a decent paying job. I also demanded raises for the same reason. </p><p> </p><p>Working with type A's is hard. Working FOR them in nearly impossible if you take things on a personal level. I would come home EVERY night EVERY single night and WAIL for an hour or more to DF about this jerk. DF being a protective man wanted to just go poke him in the eye. I would say no no no - I need the job. I'm a woman and it's my genetic make up to whine about work. I need the release I need to uncap the vent. </p><p> </p><p>Men don't do this - most of them turn inwards and do like your husband is doing and remain a silent and miserable person and he'll continue to absorb the hostility. (Hence the weight gain) - In essence what you are dealing with is a bully. I feel like the economic crisis and recession /depression we are in has ALSO allowed bosses to be even more of a donkeys kiester. For one they are stressed out just as much if not more than those that work for them because they know IF they don't do a good job not only are they out of work but their employees are out of work. Going to bed each night and thinking about the families, wives, husbands and children of your employees isn't easy. Still not an excuse, but someone needs to find some middle earth with this Atilla and smack him with a mud pie. </p><p> </p><p>Even my boss now, is pretty even tempered. His sister is a Downs kid and he has a little more patience with people than I've seen in a while, but when you stick loosing a business in his face vs. me being 10 minutes late because I overslept due to taking a Flexeril? OMG - last year boss? Nice, no problems....This year boss? 20 questions. </p><p> </p><p>I've told people that in a way the recession has helped me because it's made me re-evaluate my life, spending habits and how I allow people to treat me. I stopped working the second job ONLY because I wasn't being treated nicely. Even when I got a BIG HUGE 30 minute apology - my mind was already made up and I think my counselor would have been proud of me for sticking up for myself and saying "Thanks but naught ah - you had a chance to treat me nice, you didn't, and now you can work without me." </p><p>---They would still hire me back today - and I could use the extra dough - but not at the cost of not standing up for me. For one of the first times in my life - I said "NOPE - you don't get to say that and take it back." </p><p> </p><p>I hope your hubby finds a way to renegotiate his contract. If he's supposed to get these perks? He should get them. The biggest shame here is that supervisor woman - If she's that intimidating and won't help her employee (your husband) then I wouldn't want to work for her either. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe the "key" is to put husband out there on line say at Monster.com or something and just let him toy with the idea of a company romancing him and his mad skillz. (like that eubonics play on words huh? Huh?) </p><p> </p><p>Otherwise - I would chalk it up to job security and the economy - and your husband worrying about you and the kids and doing whatever it takes right now to make sure you are all provided for. Even if that means working with a jerk who couldn't see a good employee if he stepped right on him and used him for a door mat. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs - hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 242651, member: 4964"] Susi* You know I worked for a man like that for 7 years. I made good money working for him, because...by the time I was hired he had gone through so so many people that demanded raises to stay in his employ and save him the hassle of hiring someone new and hoping they could do the job to his level of perfectionistic need - I walked into a decent paying job. I also demanded raises for the same reason. Working with type A's is hard. Working FOR them in nearly impossible if you take things on a personal level. I would come home EVERY night EVERY single night and WAIL for an hour or more to DF about this jerk. DF being a protective man wanted to just go poke him in the eye. I would say no no no - I need the job. I'm a woman and it's my genetic make up to whine about work. I need the release I need to uncap the vent. Men don't do this - most of them turn inwards and do like your husband is doing and remain a silent and miserable person and he'll continue to absorb the hostility. (Hence the weight gain) - In essence what you are dealing with is a bully. I feel like the economic crisis and recession /depression we are in has ALSO allowed bosses to be even more of a donkeys kiester. For one they are stressed out just as much if not more than those that work for them because they know IF they don't do a good job not only are they out of work but their employees are out of work. Going to bed each night and thinking about the families, wives, husbands and children of your employees isn't easy. Still not an excuse, but someone needs to find some middle earth with this Atilla and smack him with a mud pie. Even my boss now, is pretty even tempered. His sister is a Downs kid and he has a little more patience with people than I've seen in a while, but when you stick loosing a business in his face vs. me being 10 minutes late because I overslept due to taking a Flexeril? OMG - last year boss? Nice, no problems....This year boss? 20 questions. I've told people that in a way the recession has helped me because it's made me re-evaluate my life, spending habits and how I allow people to treat me. I stopped working the second job ONLY because I wasn't being treated nicely. Even when I got a BIG HUGE 30 minute apology - my mind was already made up and I think my counselor would have been proud of me for sticking up for myself and saying "Thanks but naught ah - you had a chance to treat me nice, you didn't, and now you can work without me." ---They would still hire me back today - and I could use the extra dough - but not at the cost of not standing up for me. For one of the first times in my life - I said "NOPE - you don't get to say that and take it back." I hope your hubby finds a way to renegotiate his contract. If he's supposed to get these perks? He should get them. The biggest shame here is that supervisor woman - If she's that intimidating and won't help her employee (your husband) then I wouldn't want to work for her either. Maybe the "key" is to put husband out there on line say at Monster.com or something and just let him toy with the idea of a company romancing him and his mad skillz. (like that eubonics play on words huh? Huh?) Otherwise - I would chalk it up to job security and the economy - and your husband worrying about you and the kids and doing whatever it takes right now to make sure you are all provided for. Even if that means working with a jerk who couldn't see a good employee if he stepped right on him and used him for a door mat. Hugs - hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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